"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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good looking guys dont need special openers, negs, ****y and funny etc?

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My question today (though I had it the past 999 or so days also)

Do good looking guys dont need special openers, negs, ****y and funny etc?
From the 10 guys around their 30's I consider myself,based on reaction from both males and females, number 8 or 9 in facial looks and body build.
I really have a hard time implementing these routines on cold approaching.
Say the situation is in the metro,subway or train
Just saying hi, how are you and looking at how she says `fine`,´oke´ or smiles I stop (half of times) or continue with where are you going and after that I allmost always can make a nice conversation which often leads to dating etc.
To open with hi how are you might look lame but is pretty neutral I think.If your physical appearance is not bad and you don´t look scary then you got all the chances. or not ?:nervous:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A good looking guy with no game will get girls.....Say 3-10.

A good looking guy with game will get girls.....Say 8-10.

Thats the diffrence. If you have good looks. You will get girls. But you will get vain girls who are not hooking up with you for anything more than vanity.

To be honest I would work on my game. You cant just go out 1 day and be a DJ. It takes time. I was getting shot down for a good 3 months before I started getting success rates. Since then my game has improved and my success has got alot higher.

Do what you feel comfortable with....I would keep working on my game if i were you thow.
 

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go out there. stop wasting your time. create your opportunities. make it natural. if its not, do something aboutit.
 

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I was in Whole foods and saw a tallish (maybe 5'10") guy who was pudgy all around and not handsome at all with a slim, petite blonde in a jogging outfit.
Maybe he has great game, and he just continued playing until he hit the jackpot.
 

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Well i'll tell you my story:

Im a average looking guy, i really liked this woman but wasn't to fussed if we'd go out. Anyways as you do, you get competition and this guy was really in her terms good looking, but he was also a sensitive idiot. So who does she choose? me! of course, because i was aloof, didnt pressure her, had fun with her and showed her that i was the prize. The guy was always ringing her, boring to talk to and all he had going for himself was looks.

Dont get me wrong looks help, but it doesnt make you who you are, a woman will easily pick a guy who can make her feel a range of emotions, rather then just eye candy... beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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NOPE you still need all the game. I have never even heard about a guy being more attractive than I am. To be 100% honest I notice the girls who don't check me out. And in high school well I had no confidence and didn't get anything. When I use what I know now they completely flock to me in situations where I have an easy intro. Like picture the hottest girl you have ever seen. Using this stuff is the difference between just seeing her or having her obsess over you. Also pretty much every girl I know thinks I am probably the best looking guy they have seen. So use the stuff man.
 

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Yeah I read the first reply. Listen to that guy. Basically if your attractive girls might approach you or you might get ass based on nothing but if you want to keep them attracted to you, you should use the stuff. Also personally I do the ****y funny stuff a lot about like "dam girl you ever seen an ass this fine?" and move my ass so they can look. ****y smile = wet. Read the bible start using the stuff and eventually it will click. I used a lot of the stuff very wrong for a while. Basically eventaully you get to set your own rules. Most of this stuff wont work unless its how you feel though so you need to build yourself until you believe your the goods.
 

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Ok, from my experience as a good looking guy, many women will be receptive to any opportunity you give them to talk to you. You just need some conversation skills in order to keep a conversation going after making initial contact.
 

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Well, not to toot my own horn too much, but I'm 6'7" about 245 lbs handsome and cute with an excellent build.
I was out with a friend last night to shoot some pool, get some food, and finally to hit a club or two. Well, last night didn't agree with me too well, meaning I became very tired very soon into the whole evening. Having said that, I agreed to continue with the evening in the true spirit of being a Don Juan.

When we hit the club with only one beer under my belt, I just sort of settled in by the bar talking occasionally to my wingman. Now as we casually conversed, I noticed at LEAST 12 girls giving me acknowledgement and strong prolonged eye contact which obviously indicates interest. Now, due to the way I felt, I really didn't care one way or the other as to what would happen. Some girls actually made their way to the bar going out of their way just to maybe get the chance to "bump into me", as it were to get a drink.

Did I engage any of these women beyond the courtesy of saying hi? No. Didn't feel like it. Did I get any digits? No. Do women generally approach men? No. Do you need to open your mouth? Yes! Can women be shy when dealing with potential mates or dates? He!! Yes! Are women "scared little pussies"? Yes they are!! Do you need to take control of the situation EVERY SINGLE TIME? YES YOU DO!!!!

You could be the cutest, most handsomest (As i am :yes: ) guy out there and not get anywhere with girls IF you don't do your part. You still need to approach, engage, take control of every situation. If chicks give you any bullsh!t, don't hesitate to call them out on it. Chicks love confidence, and strength. They usually do volunteer this tidbit of feedback eventually.
Being someone like me gets you only so far. Now, I'll admit it usually is much easier for someone like me to land girls. YOU'VE got to be quick, witty, confident, assertive, funny and thoughtful when dealing with those inferior little beings called women.


Now, being someone like myself can also intimidate women who (many do) think themselves unworthy or having no chance with someone like me.
Fellahs, we aren't the only sex that has self esteme issues!! If you think some woman is a mythical 10 (they don't exist), even 9's are debatable, think again!!! Don't ever put them on pedestals. Playfully point out their faults, or better yet don't act or let them perceive that they are anything special.

Most important of all is to have fun doing it!!! Again, if you do it correctly, they will sense it and respect you for having the balls and the blase' attitude.

-Senator
 

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looks

Folks, this is a dead horse. It all depends on the chick, but by and large, a physically fit male stands a much better shot with any woman. And, rightly so.

Why? for the same reason that you are more open to hot chicks than chunky ones.

Don't worry about your looks. yes, shower, use deodorant, etc.

But, your looks are you. Why should you be any less attractive than any other guy. Be yourself, and the confidence it takes to do that is what women will find sexy and attractive.

Why? because most of them haven't a clue who they are or what's so good about them.

When they wear pants, they put them on one leg at a time, just like us.
They have doubts, fears, concerns just like you. Once you see them as people, the relating to them gets so much easier.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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