"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good looking but too boring: what to do

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Hi,
Background
I am 18 years old and will be attending college soon.

Problem:
I think i know why girls for the past years have always lost interest in me after the first two months of encountering. Due to a bit of shyness, I think i eventually bore most of them. I know this is rather general, but I am really not sure how to make things more interesting and keep her interested. From all the girls that have had interest in me, I can safely deduce that I am not bad looking or anything. However, I just can't keep too many girls because they often find me too boring.


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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dear young man

You seem to know the answer to your dilema. Find activities like sports partners, movies, whatever. Keep occupied and when you are with a lady keep proposing activities to her. That should interest her. It doesn't have to be expensive : go to the park for a picnic, a walk in the forest or the desert wherever you live, a movie, visiting museums, ...

Goodluck
 
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Sorry mate, I can't teach you to be fun.

BUT

you sound TOO ANALYTICAL!

Don't think as much.
 
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BORING....is not a result but rather, a forced action.

I cant be boring, if I am free. I cant be boring, if I dont have a care in the world. Because if I were truly free, then I would move, and laugh, and be totally engaged to my current surroundings.

Boring....my friend, is due to calculated actions, and not instintual behaviors. You cannot be boring, if you are free.

Free yourself from your worries, whatever they might be. Free yourself from your insecurities, whatever they might be. And watch how a load is taken off of you, and you will move more freely and lightly throughout the world, care free.
 
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Read newspapers, watch sporst, movies, go out and experience life. The more experiences u have, the more people you meet, the more u will learn.

whats the point of this ? How can someone who experiences so much of life be boring ? The answer: they cant.

Some people have the gift of gab and can be the life of the party. I for one, definitely dont have this, and I take it you dont either. Make the best of it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ bible for ya!

But consider this: if they endure two months, that's something about you, really. If you were THAT messed up, you wouldn't last a date.

Seems like you're to shy to make a move. Sounds like me.

DJ bible for us!

Ah, to share something that I was thinking: kino is magic. I was recovering lost memories of my past relationships, and all of them (especially the unexpected ones) were sparked with kino. Don't leave home without it! After rapport, of course :D
 
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Young DJ to be. Shyness isn't boring, its a common things seen on guys. what you have is to practice developing self confidence. what you are missing is those Hot Babes roaming around not talking to you, ar not interested in you.

Do some active works like sports. Socilize, and enjoy the company of others. Always smile and say hi to every pretty chick you pass by. And if you're not yet satified with your life, go get some action with the guide of the DJ Bootcamp. You can get it at the DJ Bilbe corner.

Good Luck!
 
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Boring can mean many things.

These guys are correct, you should have interests and hobbies.

But also getting down to basics, boring means that you could be too clingy, too nice, not mysterious.

Hobbies yes!

But also think emotions, move her.

Get it?

Don't neglect your game.


Kaine
 
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BORING....is not a result but rather, a forced action.

I cant be boring, if I am free. I cant be boring, if I dont have a care in the world. Because if I were truly free, then I would move, and laugh, and be totally engaged to my current surroundings.

Boring....my friend, is due to calculated actions, and not instintual behaviors. You cannot be boring, if you are free.

Free yourself from your worries, whatever they might be. Free yourself from your insecurities, whatever they might be. And watch how a load is taken off of you, and you will move more freely and lightly throughout the world, care free.
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I gotta say, this was inspiring. I "think" way too much, to the point of obsession, and I know that's what keeps me from opening up to people. I'm more social and care free when I'm in a good mood with no immediate worries. It's hard for me to be in this state-of-mind, but I'm beginning to understand it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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