There is this girl (I'll call her Lisa) at my job that I had a crush on for a while, but convinced myself that she wanted nothing to do with me bc every time I tried to flirt with her I got absolutely nothing back. Eventually I just gave up and moved on, until one night at a party (at her house) while hooking up with one of her friends I got the "I can't do this...bc Lisa has the biggest crush on you and she'll kill me." I thought it was bs at the time and tried to call her on it, but she insisted and said that Lisa is just really shy with guys that she really likes.
So a few weeks go by, and I run into Lisa again and flirt with her a little. This time she was all smiley and game so I asked her out...date went extremely well, and we totally hit it off. About half way through the date she invites me to a party the following week, which I assumed was our second date. At the end of the night we go back to her place, drink some wine, and then we make out. After I stroked her inner thigh I got hand checked, and she says "what type of first date would I be?" This is typical, not surprising and understandable, so I call it a night and tell her I'll talk to her later in the week.
I didn't actually call her or talk to her until I met her at the party about a week and a half later, but when I got there she was really happy to see me. This is where all the fun begins...during the party I started to pick up on subtle gaming, which honestly surprised me because she totally did not strike me as that type of girl. I know its stupid but I really thought she was a "good girl" and very straight up; after all that's how she carried herself the entire first date. Frankly, I don't really care when girls game, but its when they successfully pass themselves off as non-gaming girls and then game that throws me off. I digress. At the party she started doing stuff like suddenly not being interested and talking to other people. I noticed that she only did this after a particularly long girl-talk session in the corner of the room.
I figured I was dealing with amateurs, so I got up and made the rounds, which wasn't hard because chicks way outnumbered dudes at this place. When I came back, we'd start rapping again, and then she'd do it again mid-conversation. And like I did before, I would casually walk away and start talking to other girls. The second time I almost left with another chick, but decided that because I actually like Lisa I'd go back and see what was up. This time she literally grabbed a hold of me and said she wanted to leave. I should note that at this point we are both pretty much wasted. The whole walk home (and yes, it was a long walk) we stopped to make out, and by the time we got to her place it was on.
This is where the trouble starts...I don't remember everything exactly, but we basically f-ed our brains out. I left a few hours later while she was still sleeping, but couldn't help but feel sorry for her, cause I knew she was gonna wake up with a killer hangover, so I left her a text message for her when she woke up ala "you make cute faces when you sleep", you know something to make her smile, whatever. The next day, I sent her an email saying simply "Hey, whats up?" and have yet to get a response. So my question(s) is...
Does she think I think she's a slut, and upset that she got wasted and lost control? or
Is she actually a slut, and just wanted sex that night? and lastly,
If it is the former, is there anything I can do to fix that?
I'm really split on this one because evidence points to both, and although I don't really care either way, I have to admit I'd be pretty disappointed if a potentially good thing got destroyed bc we got too drunk one night and I f-ed her like a hor.
So a few weeks go by, and I run into Lisa again and flirt with her a little. This time she was all smiley and game so I asked her out...date went extremely well, and we totally hit it off. About half way through the date she invites me to a party the following week, which I assumed was our second date. At the end of the night we go back to her place, drink some wine, and then we make out. After I stroked her inner thigh I got hand checked, and she says "what type of first date would I be?" This is typical, not surprising and understandable, so I call it a night and tell her I'll talk to her later in the week.
I didn't actually call her or talk to her until I met her at the party about a week and a half later, but when I got there she was really happy to see me. This is where all the fun begins...during the party I started to pick up on subtle gaming, which honestly surprised me because she totally did not strike me as that type of girl. I know its stupid but I really thought she was a "good girl" and very straight up; after all that's how she carried herself the entire first date. Frankly, I don't really care when girls game, but its when they successfully pass themselves off as non-gaming girls and then game that throws me off. I digress. At the party she started doing stuff like suddenly not being interested and talking to other people. I noticed that she only did this after a particularly long girl-talk session in the corner of the room.
I figured I was dealing with amateurs, so I got up and made the rounds, which wasn't hard because chicks way outnumbered dudes at this place. When I came back, we'd start rapping again, and then she'd do it again mid-conversation. And like I did before, I would casually walk away and start talking to other girls. The second time I almost left with another chick, but decided that because I actually like Lisa I'd go back and see what was up. This time she literally grabbed a hold of me and said she wanted to leave. I should note that at this point we are both pretty much wasted. The whole walk home (and yes, it was a long walk) we stopped to make out, and by the time we got to her place it was on.
This is where the trouble starts...I don't remember everything exactly, but we basically f-ed our brains out. I left a few hours later while she was still sleeping, but couldn't help but feel sorry for her, cause I knew she was gonna wake up with a killer hangover, so I left her a text message for her when she woke up ala "you make cute faces when you sleep", you know something to make her smile, whatever. The next day, I sent her an email saying simply "Hey, whats up?" and have yet to get a response. So my question(s) is...
Does she think I think she's a slut, and upset that she got wasted and lost control? or
Is she actually a slut, and just wanted sex that night? and lastly,
If it is the former, is there anything I can do to fix that?
I'm really split on this one because evidence points to both, and although I don't really care either way, I have to admit I'd be pretty disappointed if a potentially good thing got destroyed bc we got too drunk one night and I f-ed her like a hor.