Good enough to flirt with but not to date?

[Naughty Ninja]

Anyone ever felt they were good enough to flirt with but not to date due to their age and the chicks age?

I get flirted with by a lot of younger aged chicks but due to their ages know if they knew my real age 43 it's pretty much a wrap. (Which I have no problem telling them.)

(I'm talking about chicks who don't have daddy issues and have no problems dating dudes their age.) Let's be real here. Who in their right mind at a signifcant difference in age is going to date a lower to mid twenties chick and avoid parents, friends etc. Especially if the chick is actually pretty cool.

Most chicks are too stuck in their ways after a certain age, have far too much baggage, are entitled, divorce under their belt, kids and well....don't look so good anymore to be honest.

 

[zekko]

Anyone ever felt they were good enough to flirt with but not to date due to their age and the chicks age?

The reason I came to this site was that I was getting up in years and wasn't sure how it affected my sexual identity. Once I got a handle on that though, I haven't felt disadvantaged by my age at all.

Younger girls seem to like me, I don't know why. I guess they know a quality man when they see one Someone told me recently that it was creepy for an old guy to be with a younger woman, but for some reason it wouldn't seem weird for me.

I tend to dislike flirty people though. People who are always flirting with whatever member of the opposite sex that is around. You never know if they are actually interested in someone or if they are just flirting with them to boost their own ego. These people come across as somewhat insecure to me because it seems like they are always looking to get some validation. It's almost like the "Nice Guy" syndrome, where they are only being nice to get approval themselves.

When these people give you a compliment it doesn't really count for anything because they say the same thing to the next person who comes along.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

The reason I came to this site was that I was getting up in years and wasn't sure how it affected my sexual identity. Once I got a handle on that though, I haven't felt disadvantaged by my age at all.

Younger girls seem to like me, I don't know why. I guess they know a quality man when they see one Someone told me recently that it was creepy for an old guy to be with a younger woman, but for some reason it wouldn't seem weird for me.

I tend to dislike flirty people though. People who are always flirting with whatever member of the opposite sex that is around. You never know if they are actually interested in someone or if they are just flirting with them to boost their own ego. These people come across as somewhat insecure to me because it seems like they are always looking to get some validation. It's almost like the "Nice Guy" syndrome, where they are only being nice to get approval themselves.

When these people give you a compliment it doesn't really count for anything because they say the same thing to the next person who comes along.

It's weird. I look much younger than my age and don't mind telling it to people though I feel even if they are like "wow" they want nothing to do with dating an older guy unless they have daddy issues. I'm not talking about too young. Like mid twenties. Then I get to the point where I think WTF do I really have in common with these chicks? And I have no desire to go with a chick near my age due too things listed in my previous post.

The one regret I have was a customer a while ago I had who always came in to see me and asked about me when I wasn't there. (Also asked a younger co-worker about me at a party they were at. He had told me "J" asked about you.) At the time I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend as well as I knew she didn't know my real age. We got along pretty good and got personal on both ends more than just talking in a customer/ salesperson way. Also knowing at the time I was 41 and she was 23 and the fact her mom wound up knowing me from coming in with her most of the time. I folded. It sucked big time. Girlfriend, her boyfriend, knowing my age and hers and knowing her mom and them not knowing my real age even after she was single and I became single. That sucked big time. lol. Chick was and is gorgeous. She was a little uppity though got on my nerves a few times to be honest.

 

[zekko]

Like mid twenties. Then I get to the point where I think WTF do I really have in common with these chicks

I think this is your problem. First off, you're letting your brain talk you out of it. You're freaked out about the age difference so she's automatically going to be. I genuinely don't think it's a problem, so it tends to not bother them. It's the old "Make the girl find a reason not to fvck you, don't come up with them yourself".

Look at it this way. Once you get to be a certain age, an adult age, everybody is pretty much the same. I don't mean they have the same personalities or whatever, but you're all in the same boat. You ever work someplace where there's a lot of different people of all ages? Notice how everybody gets along together (for the most part)? It's because you're all adults. It's not like when you're in high school and the jocks are over here and the nerds are over there and the stoners are over there.

Also, it helps if you have something in common with the girl, rather than just picking some hottie off the street. Actually, I tend to like nice girls, so as long as the girls are nice, decent types we will usually get along. I don't like the slvtty wh0rish type girls, and they don't seem to go for me either. There's no chemistry there.

I observed from a young age that even very hot chicks would have crushes on men that were much, much older. So that ingrained in me very early that age differences weren't that big of a deal. And I've always remembered that.

You're into a lot of online dating, aren't you? I've noticed from checking out those sites that the girls are very hung up on age online. That's why it's best to attract younger girls from social circle. I seem to hang out with a lot of younger people, for whatever reason. And you can kind of sneak in under the radar, they get attracted to your personality, maturity, looks, status, or whatever. I've attracted several young ladies recently without even trying. So if you are only hanging around people your own age, that might hold you back. I don't have kids or a family so maybe that's why I don't relate to people my age as much as to the younger folks.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I think this is your problem. First off, you're letting your brain talk you out of it. You're freaked out about the age difference so she's automatically going to be. I genuinely don't think it's a problem, so it tends to not bother them. It's the old "Make the girl find a reason not to fvck you, don't come up with them yourself".

Look at it this way. Once you get to be a certain age, an adult age, everybody is pretty much the same. I don't mean they have the same personalities or whatever, but you're all in the same boat. You ever work someplace where there's a lot of different people of all ages? Notice how everybody gets along together (for the most part)? It's because you're all adults. It's not like when you're in high school and the jocks are over here and the nerds are over there and the stoners are over there.

Also, it helps if you have something in common with the girl, rather than just picking some hottie off the street. Actually, I tend to like nice girls, so as long as the girls are nice, decent types we will usually get along. I don't like the slvtty wh0rish type girls, and they don't seem to go for me either. There's no chemistry there.

I observed from a young age that even very hot chicks would have crushes on men that were much, much older. So that ingrained in me very early that age differences weren't that big of a deal. And I've always remembered that.

You're into a lot of online dating, aren't you? I've noticed from checking out those sites that the girls are very hung up on age online. That's why it's best to attract younger girls from social circle. I seem to hang out with a lot of younger people, for whatever reason. And you can kind of sneak in under the radar, they get attracted to your personality, maturity, looks, status, or whatever. I've attracted several young ladies recently without even trying. So if you are only hanging around people your own age, that might hold you back. I don't have kids or a family so maybe that's why I don't relate to people my age as much as to the younger folks.

I know I partially psyche myself out of it with these younger chicks. (No idea why as my last exes were both 26 and I've always dated younger chicks (No Chris Hansen shizz either..)

It's hilarious. Just tonight a lady who works part time doing the perfumes for one of the vendors who I've just BS'd with a few times told me she heard "talk" I'm 43. I said yes I am. She was like holy crap I thought you were like 25! (I've heard it last week too from another chick who works there and was told the chicks have 'talked' about me. I wasn't surprised as I pretty much BS with everyone and am known as a wise azz. On one had it's good. But on the other hand true some chicks may be attracted to you but the reality of you're age and peers thoughts may say another thing.

The one chick who always used to come in with her mom I'm pretty sure was interested in me for some reason though I figured they had no idea of my real age. That was a fvck up on my part. I should've said screw it and asked her out.

As for the online dating. I already know the deal full well on there. I never took that to heart let alone thought it was remotely close to real life. I had dated a few chicks a looooong time ago from online dating and every one was a complete nut job, as well as knowing chicks personally who've used it....and they were all messed up to. I just experimented on there and used it to pass downtime then wanted to see if it would work for other dudes who wanted to get replies, numbers and meets off it. And it worked. I haven't used it personally in like almost eleven months now. No desire to waste time with cuckoo birds and trash.