Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Good conversation topics for connecting with women

Bingo-Player

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i went out sober last night and it was hard work id even go as far as stressful

however i did note a key weakness in my game which relates too conversation

this year ive gotten so used to running game within my various social circles I've actually forgotten how to speak to chicks i don't really know much about

a few girls approached me last night , and to be honest i couldn't wait to get away quick enough :/ which isn't like me

im so used to talking about stuff that happens within all the circles i hang around in and referring back to topics and people within these circles

I've almost forgotten how to converse normally

anyone got any tips for topics to start a genuinely interesting conversation with someone you've just met ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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salinechow

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Something I have picked up here at SS. Talk about them. Keep them talking.

Specifically, and excellent question to ask is:
"Ok. HB, you said you work a lot, or do yoga a lot, you travel a lot, (whatever else drivel they are saying) but what are you passionate about? What makes you tick. What are your desires for life. Dreams. If you could be anything but what you are what would it be? Sh!t like that.

I am an excellent conversationalist. Yet, for the first time the other night I realized I was be to journalistic when communicating sometimes.(girl actually pointed this out to me) So I dropped the "Well what are you passionate about? Line. 2hrs later I was at her apartment enjoying her box.

Also, a couple of nights before this I was making very good progress with my first HB9 but she was sh1t testing me. After busting her balls a little and calling her out on it, I dropped the "So tell me then, you said you have been going to school and working at that profession but what are you really passionate about." Her body language completely changed, eyes widened, got closer to me(moving her friend out of the way to do so) and told me she wanted to be a writer. Novel writing. All things being even, I blew it a short time afterwards. However, I did way better than every other "try hard" "stand in the shadows and watch me work" beta in the place. A small win.

It is unbelievable to me how narcissistic women can be. Seriously. The more I am interacting with them the more I realize they really think the entire world is just for them. The hotter they are too, the more the self-centered they are. It is truly vast. HOWEVER, once this is realized it can used really well. I watched a few times now, as these girls get off on themselves! But, they project those emotions towards you. All you have to do is listen, and keep them talking. Small joke here, small affirmation there, eye contact, if appropriate small kino, done and done. Everything you need to say to her while she is intellectually and emotionally masturbating herself in front of you, can be said with your eyes and actions.
 

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You don't have to "connect". That's the whole thing.

Does George Clooney need to "Connect" for women to want him? Of course not. Attraction isn't about connecting, its about attraction. This is why you get wood for women you don't know and women get wet for men they don't know.

So stop trying to connect. That is exclusively beta game.

The best approach is flirting and joking around. As far as conversation topics go.. it doesn't really matter: Movies, travel, TV, food, college stories, your friends, etc.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheMonkeyKing

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I sometimes find the same problem.

-Have a few general lines of conversation that you can strike upon, that will apply to most scenarios: the venue, the event you are at, the local area, similar areas/venues/events.

-Pay genuine interest in people: why they are at the venue/event/area, where they were before, where they are going after. Pay compliments on appearance. So-called 'small talk' does not come across as small if you are genuinely interested.

With all this in mind, have interesting things to say about yourself and our own immediate circumstance. Hold yourself in high esteem.

As an aside, be fair to yourself that you will not have amazing chemistry with every person you ever meet - some people are simply hard work to talk to. If there is a pause in an initial conversation, take that moment to briefly evaluate (in your own mind) how it's going. If you and your opposite number appear to be enjoying it carry on. If not, politely find an excuse to move on. However, the instances where you don't find time to perform this type of evaluation, those are the situations that you want to perpetuate.
 
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