"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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good? bad? next move?....

tryin 2 play

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Met this girl a couple weeks ago....we work in the same building but not WITH each other, which is good. I am a police officer and she works in accounting.

One night she had to work on my shift, and i sent her a chat (sort of like instant messaging) to ask her something. She then asked if I could tell her a law pertaining to her car, but i needed to look it up since i didnt know it(haha). I told her I would do it the next day since I was tired and didnt feel like looking it up now. I said i would tell her next time i saw her or she could text me, and i left her my #.

She texts me a few hours later just saying heres my number so you have it and know who it is when I text you. Brief convo with some ****y funny by me. The next day I tell her i found it for her and told her, but now she owes me big time....heres our convo:

me: no worries, you just owe me big time now!
her: oh yeah?! how much do you charge for that?
me: hhmmm debating my many options here
her: haha ill give you time. You helped me out so youll just have to let me know when you decide!!
me: i guess I can let you buy me some drinks, I'm not cheap though...
her: I can do drinks, not cheap huh? I think i can swing it!
me: sugar mama huh?
her: haha maybe someday when im older!

next day I just send a random text....

me: drive down here later I'm thirsty
her: I'm away till sunday :( rain check?
me: boring
her: lame lameeeeeee, i know!
me:eek:h well
her: rain check though okay?!
me: psshhh
her: is that a yessssssss?
me: if you want....
her: :)

next day she texts me just saying something about work...quick one or 2 lines of text and thats it.

Now normally when girls ask for a "rain check" but dont counter offer another date, it is usually bad. However she seems more interested, basically asked 3 times if we could "rain check"

assume interest here? What is the net move? Although we dont work "together", it is still in the same building, so definitely dont want to push too much.

What are your thoughts, guys?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You got a counteroffer. Not only that she was keen on continuing the convo. She says she's out of town til Sunday so hit her up again after that. No big deal.

Now if she asks for a "rain check" after that then you know where you stand but for now you seem fine.
 

tryin 2 play

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Thanks man I'll wait a couple of days and try again, see what th deal is from there.
 
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