"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Gonna get this girl!

Dude_man123

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Ok, I am gonna get this girl :D

I am right now, attending a community college. About a month ago, a friend of mine told me about this chick he had a fling with a while back, but things didn't work out, but he told me she was really cute and that I should go with her.

I was reluctant at first, but hes a good friend of mine, and I trust him. Seriously, friends for more than 10 years.

So, the new college semester started a few weeks ago. In a specific class, a girl entered the room a minute or two late, but the teacher called her name, kim, and I recognized it. I had seen a small picture of her and thought it was her, but wasn't sure. Later I spoke to my friend and said that I think that the same kim was in my class. I was still reluctant to try and get with her.

A few days later he tells me that she had texted him, and they were talking about classes, and asked her if a guy named "my name" was in that particular class, and she said that she remembered me.

Ok, so thats cool. Next class period, I was a little late (haha) I have a friend in there, who sorta sits close by her, so I sat near him, which was near her. Cool. At the end of class the teacher was showing people there grades for a paper we did. So im standing around waiting for my name to be called, and talking to a class mate, and she kinda walks near me and stops, just stands there.

I decided, hey, its a golden moment to speak to her.

Me: "Hey, your kim right?"
Her: Yeah! Your billy's friend right?
Me: Yeah :)
Her: Yeah, we have opposite schedules so I dont really get to see him much this semester
Me: Oh that sucks. I've actually got an art class with him.
Her: oh, I bet thats fun
Me: yeah, it is fun! We kinda just mess around, and do nothing in there.


Can't remember what she said next... but whatever, that was pretty much it. But yeah, shes so cute I want to get with her now. During the convo she was smiling, giggling a lot... like right when i spoke to her she lit up.

Ok, so, I am sorta worried she might still have feelings for him. He doesn't want her to, he has a GF.

The next class she was absent, so the next one after that, I sat down near a different friend, she wasn't there yet. The seats in the room had been rearranged. There was an empty seat next to. I saw her walk in through the corner of my eye, and sorta look at that seat, but she chose to sit a seat away from me.

At the end of class, I talk to some people for a second, she seemed to be a little slow leaving, so as the room was clearing up, I kinda just walk by her, but really close to her, and she stops, looks and smiles at me, I sorta tap her lightly with my notebook smile and say "hey" she says "hey" and I leave.

I am walking in the parking lot, looking for my car, cuz I always lose it :D and I am about to unlock the door, when a red car drives by me, and theres a girl in it who sorta smiles, but not fully, and waves, I sorta wave back, and smile (naturally) and then realize it was her, but she was driving out of the parking lot.

Anyway, what do you guys think? I am trying to just strike up another conversation with her, get her comfortable with me, or at least say hi to her everytime i see her. Sorta make her a friend... she'll fall in love with me soon if I can do that, they always do.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Deacon

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Just ask her out on a date, man. I'm sure it'll work out just fine if you do that. She sounds into you, but she could just be a friendly person. Only one way to find out...
 

MacAvoy

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What Deacon said. You already broke the ice, now make a move before she puts you in the friend zone. Ask her out for coffee or anything, just be firm about it.

You've got the right mentality, you will get the girl, now make it happen.
 

SickAgain

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Ask her to study before a week before the exam. If she digs you she'll accept, if she declines, you probably won't have to get your hopes up anymore and forget about it.
 
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