"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gonna get shot down and thats fine by me

Ridingthelightning

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I'm getting ready to call a girl who I know will turn me down. I called her yesterday, she was in the middle of stuff and I said I'm gonna let you go. She asked if she could call me back later and I said sure. I haven't recieved a call back, but I'm gonna call and say "Hey, what are you doing tonight". If her reply is nothing I'm gonna say "Well you wanna go do something? Theres movies, a couple parties I could get going, and a few gigs around we could go see."
I contemplated thinking about saying something about never getting a call back but thats gonna make me sound desperate. Thats a definite no.
Questions and comments are welcome.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Basically the call will be useless, she already rejected you, and it is blatantly obvious to her you wanna kick it with her, and you already know this so what exactly is the point in calling her, is what I am wondering...

If anything just let it go and find some new honeys. The ball is in her court now, if she wants to call you, she will. Then you will have power.
 

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Exactly my friend.
I called her and once again she said she would call back later when she knew what she was doing tonight. I'm a man \/\/hore wanna be.
This has all spawned from a recent and FINAL :)D) break up of my on/off again relationship with my ex.
At the moment I'm in the I don't know what to do, where to go, who are my friends, when will I be me again, AFC idiot mode. I'm just trying to dig my way outta this whole and start talking to random people and get more than a superficial meeting with them. Geez I'm a douche-bag.
 

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Julian is correct, if she was interested she would have called you back, whats worse is you know you were rejected and you want her to reject you again! move on to the next hor in line
 

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I'm not worried about getting shot down. I'm actually consciously using this so I don't get discouraged when I get shot down again.
I'm doing things I know I shouldn't. Well, rather I start to do them and then I think, no wait, bad idea. My game is out of shape, I've got none at all, funny actually.
I just joined a band, the loud and in your face type. If I want women then I'll get plenty.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ridingthelightning

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Well fellers, don't that beat all...
I actually did get the call back the second time and we're going out tomorrow sometime. I know thats odd... but I really do think a lot of the stuff around here thats said is a bit off. Not every girl is how these posts presume them to be. I dunno, maybe I'm wrong... no wait my mommy said I was never wrong.
 

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either way IL seems low at the moment.

you were option number 2 for tonight

maybe you can turn things around on the date
 

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I was option #2. She has a friend from out of town and they were doing whatever last night. SH!T! Just realized what I should have said. Lets all go out together! Geez, I'm outta shape.
 

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Ridingthelighting, you're doing alright buddy. I'm gonna safely say that you're not an AFC but a RAFC (recovering) which is a step before DJ. Keep making those mistakes and learn 'em.

Remember, No regrets.
 

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I've got no regrets about my actions, I think its a great way to live. I just wish it had turned out better.

BTW we never made the get together...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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