Gold-Diggers uncovered

[expos]

I moved to my current location 5 months ago, and it just happens to be in one of the richest counties in the country. It’s full of auto-industry executives and higher-ups. The median family income is $135,000 in my town, while the national average around $50,000. Lamborghinis and Maseratis are always scattered on the downtown streets on a weekend night. Valet parking at basically 50% of the restaurants.

Another observation: I see a ton of butt-ugly dudes with some really beautiful women.

I’m 35. My girlfriend decided 5 months ago to go out with me when I was essentially broke and had a couch, TV, bed, VW Jetta, and a bass guitar to my name. She was attracted to my looks and my personality and not my wealth. My salary skyrocketed three months into us dating when I landed this amazing job. Her views of me have not changed in the slightest.

So I was out with my girlfriend last night, eating at one of the finer establishments in town, and we got into the discussion of how women view money.

I asked her why some women can subject themselves to such disgusting looking, rich guys. I mean, how can they even get in the mood to take their clothes off and enjoy the physical intimacy with someone they don’t find physically attractive?

My girlfriend told me this - and my mind was blown:

“It just doesn’t matter to them. These women will actually think about new cars, big houses, and money when they are in the middle of a sexual act with these guys. They will give the guy just enough sex to keep him satisfied, but her focus isn’t really the guy, it’s her social standing and what SHE can get from that relationship. It’s how they survive.”

I then asked her if she thinks the males in these relationship are clueless to this. She says:

“Maybe not. But most of these guys are VERY insecure, so they need to feel complete by having some woman around them. They will take whatever scraps they throw at them. It’s a win-win situation. In fact, most some of these woman actually prefer an ugly guy, because he’s less likely to stray and not leave her penniless."

My girlfriend works at Fortune 500 company and is a top earner. She sees just how pathetic and deeply insecure some of these guys are behind the scenes. Some of them just hate themselves period. She’s told me some incredible stories about how toxic these corporate environments are.

I hate gold-diggers. But my conversation regarding gold-diggers had me hate some of these guys even more for enabling this type of behavior. I understand loneliness, but I don’t understand keeping a woman around who blatantly uses you and doesn’t find you physically attractive. These women should be kicked to curb. Unfortunately there are so many beta providers, even at the top-level, that this type of behavior will always be acceptable.

On the flip-side, my girlfriend had legitimate concerns about me taking this job. She was worried about a whole new batch of women throwing themselves at me and her being discarded. She knows how nasty and deceptive a woman can be and what lengths they will go for money.

Yes, we should avoid gold-diggers, but more importantly we should not play the role of enablers or providers.

We should not accept scraps of affection. Otherwise we’ll just end up as empty and sad as the gold-diggers themselves.

 

[Mike32ct]

A hooker closes her eyes and pretends you are decent looking while only thinking about the fast cash she's making.

A gold digger does much the same thing, only she's thinking about a car, vacation, expensive shoes, etc.

 

[GotED?]

I believe in this day and age, one of the VERY FEW solutions to a man who still wants to get MARRIED is to indeed marry UP - a woman who has a strong career and existing earning potential. Granted, a successful woman may be way more masculinized to some degree and less submissive than an ordinary woman, but hopefully there are still some left who are successful in life but still retain her feministic style.

This mitigates the fact that you may be marrying a woman who will later dump you and take over 50% of your hard earned life's work with it (along with your kid for a bonus ride).

I thought through this and think this is the only viable solution in our current era of fvcked up relationships and marriages. Marrying a woman who earns more than you do guarantees that she isn't into you for wealth or status, and she would have more to lose if she decides to run out of the marriage in the future.

I am interested to hear where this relationship takes you in the long-term. Please report back if it is still ongoing after 1 or 2 years.

Good luck.

Exodus

 

[Mike32ct]

I agree with this.

I believe in this day and age, one of the VERY FEW solutions to a man who still wants to get MARRIED is to indeed marry UP - a woman who has a strong career and existing earning potential. Granted, a successful woman may be way more masculinized to some degree and less submissive than an ordinary woman, but hopefully there are still some left who are successful in life but still retain her feministic style.

This mitigates the fact that you may be marrying a woman who will later dump you and take over 50% of your hard earned life's work with it (along with your kid for a bonus ride).

I thought through this and think this is the only viable solution in our current era of fvcked up relationships and marriages. Marrying a woman who earns more than you do guarantees that she isn't into you for wealth or status, and she would have more to lose if she decides to run out of the marriage in the future.

 

[expos]

I am interested to hear where this relationship takes you in the long-term. Please report back if it is still ongoing after 1 or 2 years.

Good luck.

Exodus

Thanks man. Good observation.

With her pulling $90K and me at $101K - I still have very much to lose, but that's thinking too much ahead!

A couple of things I'm trying to enforce with her now.

- Making sure I'm dating her well past the honeymoon period. I got burned before - so I'm not proposing to her under the one year mark. Anyone who does this is certifiable idiot and is making a commitment during a heightened impulsive phase. You truly don't get to know that person in that short of time. Hell, I'm 7 months in now, we have yet to have a fight, but I'm learning more about her everyday and have no intentions of making that huge commitment.

- I think maybe 2 years or more before I buy that ring. If she holds up her end here and doesn't get disrespectful or impatient. She's also getting to see me and all of my flaws, which is important for her as well.

 

[SeymourCake]

What do you do?

 

[chath]

Gold diggers are fun for people who can identify and use them as needed. Think about how good of a deal you're getting. I pick her up in my nice car, buy her a $50 plate of food and some drinks(which is nothing) and she's all mine. What a deal! Just don't marry one. Use them for what they're good for: sex. Meanwhile you keep on kicking ass in life and grow wealthier, while they grow old/uglier. And you just get a new one when you get tired of the old one.

 

[expos]

What do you do?

Art Director

 

[expos]

http://mavsblog.dallasnews.com/files/2014/04/CLIPPERS_STERLING_BASKETBALL_37337795.jpg

See above. I'm sure the sex is great!

 

[Turuwal]

Heh heh heh. I have heard your girlfriend's words before. It's all in the cosmo manual mate.

http://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/the_manipulated_man.pdf

On the flipside, one of the greatest things I uncovered was that when I told a woman that I was an unemployed crazy drug addict it actually gave better results than when I was (even accidentally) projecting the image of someone with an excellent job. Who woulda known eh?

 

[Trump]

I asked her why some women can subject themselves to such disgusting looking, rich guys. I mean, how can they even get in the mood to take their clothes off and enjoy the physical intimacy with someone they don’t find physically attractive?

Come on bro, your salary can't be that high and you living the dream, and then you ask a question like this, let alone to your girlfriend. Past the debatable age of 24-25, girls only care about money. That is ALL they care about. You should definitely definitely know this at your age.

My girlfriend told me this - and my mind was blown:

“It just doesn’t matter to them. These women will actually think about new cars, big houses, and money when they are in the middle of a sexual act with these guys. They will give the guy just enough sex to keep him satisfied, but her focus isn’t really the guy, it’s her social standing and what SHE can get from that relationship. It’s how they survive.”

I then asked her if she thinks the males in these relationship are clueless to this. She says:

“Maybe not. But most of these guys are VERY insecure, so they need to feel complete by having some woman around them. They will take whatever scraps they throw at them. It’s a win-win situation. In fact, most some of these woman actually prefer an ugly guy, because he’s less likely to stray and not leave her penniless."

My girlfriend works at Fortune 500 company and is a top earner. She sees just how pathetic and deeply insecure some of these guys are behind the scenes. Some of them just hate themselves period. She’s told me some incredible stories about how toxic these corporate environments are.

I hate gold-diggers. But my conversation regarding gold-diggers had me hate some of these guys even more for enabling this type of behavior. I understand loneliness, but I don’t understand keeping a woman around who blatantly uses you and doesn’t find you physically attractive. These women should be kicked to curb. Unfortunately there are so many beta providers, even at the top-level, that this type of behavior will always be acceptable.

Bro again this is so obvious not even funny. There are way way way way worse girls than the ones your girlfriend knows or the ones in corporate environments. Society doesn't value loneliness and alpha males, society values beta providers and attached.

On the flip-side, my girlfriend had legitimate concerns about me taking this job. She was worried about a whole new batch of women throwing themselves at me and her being discarded. She knows how nasty and deceptive a woman can be and what lengths they will go for money.

She also knows her age is high for a women and she can't compete with a young 23 year girl. :yes:

We should not accept scraps of affection. Otherwise we’ll just end up as empty and sad as the gold-diggers themselves.

For me, as long as she looks good and doesn't break me, I can accept a gold digger. Who cares. Your mental health is more important than anything. If you want to throw money at her and be sane rather than be an alpha but lonely and lose your mind, well that's not a hard choice. :yes: