Going with your gut instinct

[Knight's Cross]

Recently met a woman thru work, (not a coworker) after talking with a couple of times casually I asked for the digits. She refused. Now normally I would have stopped pursuing right there. In a way I did. We ran into each other a couple more times, casual conversation ensued, and I never asked for the digits again. Lo and behold she offers up her phone #. Alright, I'm thinking maybe this is a plate that's a slow spool-up. (RED FLAG).
I call her up, we chat. I ask her to meet me for drinks and appetizers about a week from the call. (I had a busy schedule between the call and the night I asked her out). She agrees. I go on with my life....the night before she text messages me to see how I am, and to confirm we are meeting up the next day. I said yes, and see you at 6. We meet solo for first time, and it was a disaster scene. The girl is a serious control freak....hmmm maybe KC should have gotten that from the phone # being withheld so long.
Bottom line, if you get any resistance early, especially something like a phone #, you quite possibly are wasting your time. Proceed with caution. My mistake was I didn't listen to my gut. The resistance was a FLAG that I should have listened to. That and she tried some other frame setting during conversation. Other flags I should have seen things like her saying I'm very independent (read rigid), and she hadn't finished school (with plenty of opportunity to), or for that matter really stuck to anything for a long time (didn't appear to have follow thru on things).

When it comes down to it, go with your gut. I thought I should give new age hippie girl a chance. I got a refresher at why that doesn't work for me.

KC

 

[FM 3321]

I guess part of becoming the mature man means learning how to deal with your gut feelings effectively. I think it can be tough because sometimes your gut tells you one thing while your brain says something else all the while your "heart" says something totally different.

It probably all comes from experience and going back to the drawing board to learn from what you did.

 

[Hooligan Harry]

Was she involved with someone else until recently? Maybe that had to do with her reluctance to give you her number. Maybe she decided after thinking about it that she liked you enough to forgo her usual stance of not dating people from the work place.

The fact that she gave you her number says to me that there was interest, although maybe not sky high. Go with your gut though mate. Its always served me well and one needs to trust their intuition.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Harry,
Don't know what her dating history was. Again she doesn't work for my company, she knows a woman that does. The phone # reluctance, I have hit on a idea about it. She holds herself as a high commodity. Basically my gut tells me that since she doesn't hold a high hand at life (skills, finance, network) She uses the game of high demand to make you think its worth it. What do we know of this game at SS? It's the same game as a woman that withholds sex as a power play. It's almost never worth the wait.
Nope, I totally believe that if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck......it's not a princess....it's a duck.

KC

 

[broken dreams]

I learned with my failures and by seeing strippers work last night.

All women know how to light your switches , your gut animal instinct will act upon what she does.

They will provoke you , play hard to get , to test you until where your limits and weakness are.

I like what you guys said previously, is awesome!

Gut insitnct for me is useful in how to use it when you go in for a kiss or going sexual. It is powerful and awesome.

Masculine gut instinct comes out,

but if its decision making stuff w women....
It is with your head and not your **** nor your heart.

I made mistakes and guys here helped me. your emotional gut instinct takes over and you end up doing stupid **** and even shooting yourself in the foot.

ITs your core masculinity, control it and know how to use it.

keep it simple : think with your head and not your d i c k , worse your heart.

you see a win/win opportunity go for it , you will never regret you did.

 

[guru1000]

Beware of your GUT.