"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Going to **** this Up

BreezyB84

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Im going to **** up.... Im ready to **** up...
I've been reading a lot and posting a bit....I've prayed and mediated...This morning I looked in the mirror and made an honest evaluation of myself... Im truly ready to learn to be a DJ.. I never truly learned how to deal with women and even with moderate success on my own, I am supremely deficient in this area...

I am going to **** up.... A lot.. Im going to do everything wrong at first and then Im going to learn from mistakes. Its going to hurt, its going to be embarrassing at times but if Its going to enhance my life and bring quality people into my life, then Im all for it. Im going to change my mentality, truly work on me and not allow my own fears and biases to crowd my mind. I will do my best not to take things personal and try to enjoy the ride as much as possible. I live in a great city in Florida so there should be plenty of opportunities to **** up.

I hope you guys accept me and my **** ups in the future. I appreciate you all ahead of time.

Happy Thanksgiving!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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btownbuck2012

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Great men throughout history have always gone out of their way to embrace failure. Remember that.

Failure is essential to growth. You absolutely cannot get to where you want to be without failure.

The hardest thing is going to be actually failing and keeping yourself motivated during the low moments. Just come back here and type and we'll help you.
 

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If I hadn't failed I wouldn't have learned. Go fail, it won't kill you. It will hurt your ego so you might as well rid yourself of the ego, then failure stops hurting.
 

Desdinova

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I am going to **** up.... A lot.. Im going to do everything wrong at first and then Im going to learn from mistakes. Its going to hurt, its going to be embarrassing at times but if Its going to enhance my life and bring quality people into my life, then Im all for it. Im going to change my mentality, truly work on me and not allow my own fears and biases to crowd my mind. I will do my best not to take things personal and try to enjoy the ride as much as possible.
This is exactly what I did after I came here.

You have absolutely nothing to lose. When you're 100% single and clueless about how to attract women, you have the ability to gain knowledge, experience, and life lessons through failure. You also need the ability to realise when something isn't working. That's when you need to try something different. After you've tried something, take a bit of time to go over it in your head and think about it. Keep trying different things until you find something that seems to work.

Also, don't underestimate women. If you don't get a negative response from her, then keep moving forward. Always assume that she's interested from the beginning until she gives you a clear indication that she's not.
 

l__i__l

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You've got the right intention.
FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real,and is what prevents us from living and enjoying life.
The key is identifying what your fears are and understanding how false they are.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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