Going to the club solo

[Mike32ct]

Oof, good catch. I'm glad you said that - otherwise that probably would of been my move haha. Makes sense though to establish a reputation there.

Exactly. Then it doesn’t matter what some random chick thinks of you and/or you being alone. Staff respects you and knows you never cause any trouble.

 

[Ricky]

What's up boys.

Wondering if anyone has ever gone to a club or bar solo with the intention of picking up a woman? There is a smaller dance club 2 miles from my apartment that does Spanish dance music on Saturday nights. Last weekend I went with a plate and had a great time, but I was looking around realizing all of the latina talent (kind of wishing I wasn't with my plate haha).

Anyways, none of my guy friends around here are into that and would not go with me. I was considering just going alone this Saturday night. It's so close to my apartment and a great location, but I just don't know if that is social suicide?

I wouldn't just be posting up in the corner staring at women all night.. I would be going up to them and asking them to dance with me (I've been learning bachata and merengue) and would try to make conversation with other groups there too.

I could see both sides though. "Who is this loser showing up alone? Does he not have friends?" or "Why is this mysterious guy by himself? He seems intriguing to me.."

Thoughts?

Its all in your head. I have picked up alone in so many venues, clubs, cities and states/

The key was finding a way to be social quickly so you had people to talk to

 

[Ricky]

While not required, it is good to be a regular. If you go on the same night, you can get to know one of the bartenders. (A hot chick bartender is good to practice/warmup your conversation while you’re alone.).
And the doorman will get to know you and just waive you in quickly.

I clubbed alone for years (and kind of miss it lol).

A good reason to be nice to the bouncer and the staff.

i had just moved to California and it was my second weekend there. I stopped back at an Irish pub i had beem to the first weekend and picked up a woman who was there by herself.She was in town for a law conference.

As she was deciding whether to invite me back to the hotel she asked the bouncer about me.He told her “he seems like a good guy”. The fact that i talked to him the week before helped. She told me that she had talked to him after we had spent the weekend having sex. She kept cancelling her flight and was late to work on Monday.

In any event i bought him a beer to thank him the next time i went there. Also be good to the staff

 

[BMX]

If I were in your shoes I wouldn't go in there peacocking, or dressing in outlandish colors and fashion. Try to blend in better since you are going solo and not trying to bring too much attention to the fact that you are by yourself. You can "peacock" with your choice of cologne as mentioned above. I've gone out solo numerous times to bars and to a lesser extent, clubs. If you find yourself posted up in a corner for more than a minute or two move on and talk to groups or make some approaches or go dance/get a drink. If you have to move on to another venue altogether, you don't have anyone to stop you so that's a plus. If cover fees are steep, then plan for that too.