Here's a little background info
This is a tricky case of one-itis, but before everyone explodes on me, just relax, i'm not totally inflicted with one-itis, but i do have occasional thoughts about this one.
however, the attraction wasn't one-way, i could tell her IL in me was pretty high, but i AFC'ed it up like you wouldn't believe. Especially towards the end, i really messed it up. No biggie though, i know of all my mistakes and I sure as hell won't make them again.
in the near future i'll be going to a social gathering will all my friends from university that i haven't seen since school ended in april. So i'm wondering how I should deal with this girl......we're great friends (the result of my AFC behaviour). I was thinking of playing it cool, sarging some of the other girls that are there, talk to this one for a little bit and not really give her my absolute full attention. My goal isn't ultimately to attract her, but if it so happens then it's a bonus. This will be quite a change from how we've interacted in the past, so how do you think this change in behaviour will impact her? I think she might be expecting me to continue to be AFC, but there's no way that's happening.....so should i sarge her DJ style? or should i chitchat with her a bit and leave it at that and see what she does? (i have this feeling she won't do anything....which would kind of suck)
one more point to add is that i'm certain the Juggler method of building wide rapport will work with this one. i recall a few times in the past where i've employed the juggler method (unknowingly of course since i was AFC), and she responded extremely favourably.....the IL was rising like a thermometer, so if i sarge her, it'll be juggler all the way.
Thanks!
This is a tricky case of one-itis, but before everyone explodes on me, just relax, i'm not totally inflicted with one-itis, but i do have occasional thoughts about this one.
however, the attraction wasn't one-way, i could tell her IL in me was pretty high, but i AFC'ed it up like you wouldn't believe. Especially towards the end, i really messed it up. No biggie though, i know of all my mistakes and I sure as hell won't make them again.
in the near future i'll be going to a social gathering will all my friends from university that i haven't seen since school ended in april. So i'm wondering how I should deal with this girl......we're great friends (the result of my AFC behaviour). I was thinking of playing it cool, sarging some of the other girls that are there, talk to this one for a little bit and not really give her my absolute full attention. My goal isn't ultimately to attract her, but if it so happens then it's a bonus. This will be quite a change from how we've interacted in the past, so how do you think this change in behaviour will impact her? I think she might be expecting me to continue to be AFC, but there's no way that's happening.....so should i sarge her DJ style? or should i chitchat with her a bit and leave it at that and see what she does? (i have this feeling she won't do anything....which would kind of suck)
one more point to add is that i'm certain the Juggler method of building wide rapport will work with this one. i recall a few times in the past where i've employed the juggler method (unknowingly of course since i was AFC), and she responded extremely favourably.....the IL was rising like a thermometer, so if i sarge her, it'll be juggler all the way.
Thanks!
