Going to ask a girl out this week, need a quick view on rapport/date idea

[itishe]

One thing I'm terrible at is building rapport/rushing into things. I often shoot way too early for the number/date and it leads to a pretty high flake rate.

I hope to improve that and going to try by starting this week.

Noticed a cute girl in my math class a week or so ago. Kinda psyched myself out a bit but one day told myself, "get some balls and go talk to her". So I did, had the basic introduction conversation as I walked to my next class and she took off on her route. She seemed inviting and cool to talk to so why not see if she wants to go out sometime.

Since there's no risk of not seeing her again I figure I can take a couple extra days to build rapport. I figure I can pull up to her in class tomorrow, chat a bit, etc. then later this week ask her to do something. I had a couple ideas, which seems better?

1. Coffee shops all around campus, since we head in the same direction and pass one why not just see if she wants to roll in after class with me. Not really my favorite thing to do on dates, kinda boring, but it's good as you get to talk.

2. See if she's down to do something later this week. I don't know if she's 21 so getting drinks may be out of the question. Instead maybe be like, "hey I was thinking about checking out YYYYYZZZZ restaurant you should join me" or "a couple buddies and I are going bowling this Thursday, you should come"

I'm kinda leaning towards 1, it's quick and close by. 2 is good if it's nice out as I can pick her up on the motorcycle and most girls I've met enjoy going for rides on it.

 

[l e g e n d a r y]

The coffee shop could work, but make it no longer than 30 min, 45 tops...the better its going the quicker YOU want to end it, so you end on a high note with her wanting more of you...as opposed to keep talking for 2 hours, a few awkward silences and no interesting **** left to talk about lol.
The restaurant is alittle try-hard, its the definition of a "date", which always adds awkwardness.
Having here join you and some friends is prob the best; having her bring some of her friends is even better...maybe check out a haunted house with everyone...anything fun will work.

 

[itishe]

Thanks man. Ill see if she wants to grab coffee as we're walking by then. Like your haunted house idea, if things go well then that'd be a fun 2nd meet up.