"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Going To A Party Where An EX Will Be -- Should I Bring My New Girlfriend?

Mr_Stinky

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Here is the story

- Ex and I only dated for 5 or 6 months
- Have only seen Ex once in person in the last 2 years
- Went complete NC after a week or so of questioning my decision to dump her
- The Ex attacked my character behind my back which completely solidified my NC decision
- The time I did see her was at a family gathering and I said not a word to her
- Been dating my new girlfriend for 6 months
- New girlfriend knows a very general, vague description about this particular Ex
- Don't need the drama. Don't need the guaranteed cattiness/gossip

What would you DJ's do in my situation? Bring new girlfriend to the party? Go alone and enjoy myself while continuing NC? Your thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Epimanes

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Who cares what your ex thinks.. Pretend she's not there and bring your new girl. Don't look at her.. Don't engage.. Just go have fun with your girl. Its a free country so don't let an ex stop you from doing what you want to do.

Epi
 

Peaks&Valleys

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^^^agreed.

I would also tell your girl that an ex of yours might be there. I wouldn't think there would be any problems with your ex while you're there, but in case there is, it's best not to have your current girlfriend standing in the middle of you two with a distorted confused look on her face not knowing what the hell is going on.
 

Mr_Stinky

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Epimanes said:
Who cares what your ex thinks.. Pretend she's not there and bring your new girl. Don't look at her.. Don't engage.. Just go have fun with your girl. Its a free country so don't let an ex stop you from doing what you want to do.

Epi
True. But I don't want to put my girlfriend in any awkward situations. I would assume the girlfriend isn't thrilled at the idea of being in the same room as somebody who her boyfriend used to fukk :confused:
 

Peaks&Valleys

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Mr_Stinky said:
True. But I don't want to put my girlfriend in any awkward situations. I would assume the girlfriend isn't thrilled at the idea of being in the same room as somebody who her boyfriend used to fukk :confused:
Well, just go the safe route then. Stay home and spend the night watching the 5 part deluxe edition of the Twilight saga. I'm sure your girlfriend wouldn't mind that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mr_Stinky

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Stay home and spend the night watching the 5 part deluxe edition of the Twilight saga
The DVD's are still in the mail :D
 

j0504s

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Mr_Stinky said:
Here is the story

- Ex and I only dated for 5 or 6 months
- Have only seen Ex once in person in the last 2 years
- Went complete NC after a week or so of questioning my decision to dump her
- The Ex attacked my character behind my back which completely solidified my NC decision
- The time I did see her was at a family gathering and I said not a word to her
- Been dating my new girlfriend for 6 months
- New girlfriend knows a very general, vague description about this particular Ex
- Don't need the drama. Don't need the guaranteed cattiness/gossip

What would you DJ's do in my situation? Bring new girlfriend to the party? Go alone and enjoy myself while continuing NC? Your thoughts?

If you were going to bring your New Gf in general bring her. You shouldnt being her to create jelousy, who cares what she thinks. Shes your X, you moved on and most likley so has she. I wouldnt go out of your way to say hi. if you do pass her say Hi move on keep it short and polite and enjoy your time with your friends. as most ppl on this site know, exs are exs for a reason...no reason to re kindle anything with her...she will want your attention and thats all if she wants anything, dont let her mind **** you, it will most likly be a trap....

Cliffs: go and have fun as if she wasnt there....you are the prize always remmeber.

Keep Spinning,
J0504s


this thread I wrote some time ago, can give you the correct mindset which will consequnetly answer your questions and find otu true intentions
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2026742#post2026742
 

VladPatton

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Hellz to the fück yeah you bring her! Don't even acknowledge her presence and carry on about having a great time.
 
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