"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Going to a friend's birthday party tonight, my still somewhat oneitus will be there.

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Hey, DJ's.


I have to go to a friend's birthday party tonight. I'll be there most of the night.

Unfortunately, my still somewhat oneitus will be there -- I am meeting and dating other women, but there's something about this one! I guess she just has my number.

Looking for a suggested course of action? I'm not planning on interacting with her unless she approaches me first.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sorry to hear about the oneitis dude. I am suffering from it somewhat to, but if its "somewhat suffering" then its still very bad. Don't tell yourself its "somewhat" because it really isn't. I keep telling myself that, but it's not true, I am still not over here. Anyway...

This is what I'd do. I would go to that birthday party with a $hit load of confidence. I would give your current oneitis no attention at all. I mean, at all. Let her see you displaying social proof. How you gonna do that? Dance and have fun with OTHER girls, and let her see this. Pay no attention to her. Have fun with the guys and meet some new people. But pay no attention to her, if she says hi, say hi back and move on. Do not get caught up with her! Show her you don't need her, and just have fun man. It's a birthday party, so just live it up with your guy friends and meet some new chicks...

Of course, easier said than done. You can do it! Keep me updated and if you ever wanna chat online, gimme your SN or MSN and we'll chat. Good luck!
 

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Chicks Just Dig Me - That sounds like a good plan. I couldn't have worded it my self any better. Don't let the oneitus girl catch you looking at her!
 
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