"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Going tanning, etc..

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What do you guys think of tanning. I mean, most girls like tan guys..so being tan would be a plus. I always said and thought tanning for guys is girly. Nonetheless, i do believe it may increase the appearance of myself or a male even though i am not pale at all.

What is your opinions on this? And if you do it, would you keep it secret or just not care?

I'm saying this b/c my GF told me about some guyfriend of hers who went tanning and didn't want anyone else to know. I commented on it and she said it wasnt a big deal if a guy were to go and even could look nice.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't be ashamed of things you do. If you activly work to get a tan then don't hide it. Plain and simple. It's the most normal thing in the world... didn't you know?! That's your mindset...

I go to the solarium regulairly to keep my tan nice and even. I never hid it in any way. If someone calls me to go some place i just say well i'm going to the solarium first. I've never had any weird reactions to that in the sense of 'that's for girls' or whatever. I had one guy look funny at my once when i mentioned it and he's a total AFC tard... so yeah... i care, loads ;-)
 

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Getting a tan is nothing to be ashamed of. Tanned skin looks nice, pale/white skin looks bad. Simple math isn't it? It can also help you if you have bad skin, i.e acne.

Whatever you decide to do, you have to stand for it! And it's kinda hard keeping it a secret if you suddently become tanned and it's raining or snowing like hell outside right? :)
I do think it looks kinda stupid when guys get TOO tanned. Like the just got home from the beach in the middle of the winter. That's too much imo, but having that glow really improves your looks and the girls like it. Pale skin is not sexy to most women.

Don't make exuses for what you do in life. You are a man. You are not ashamed of anything you do! What other people think doesn't matter!
 

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Don't do it. It seriously fvcks up your skin in the long term.
 

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What do you want? Just like any other form of self-improvement, you need to be doing it for yourself, first and foremost. If you go and get a tan and feel the need to hide that fact then it appears that you are trying to please others before yourself and aren't comfortable with your own actions. This= turnoff for women. If however, you are totally comfortable and confident about doing it then that will show. People (aka women) will react positively. I wouldn't do it myself because I like to minimize that whole risk of cancer thing and it seems overly narcissistic to me, but to each his own.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Q-Unit
Don't do it. It seriously fvcks up your skin in the long term.
Have fun hiding from the sun your whole life covered in sun block then ^^

Safest way to tan is a solarium. Try to stick to the programs that match your skin type. The sun is a dangerous tanner because it's not as 'constant' as a solarium is. On dry hot days a lot of really abusive rays pass the ozone layer and fry into your skin. This is harmful because it causes molecular damage to your cells (which could result in self termination, IE cancer, if it gets to bad).

Always allow your skin to repair. Don't hit the solarium daily, do intense routines and then wait a week or two before doing another. The point is that your skin heals from the damage you inflict up on it through UV rays. As long as you are doing that you are perfectly fine and won't get any freaky diseases. Only sun freaks get skin problems. People who roam beaches like addicts and capture every single ray they can get. They never allow the skin to heal and hence it gets destroyed up to a point where it self destructs.

Also, refrain from getting burned. Sun burn is very bad so avoid it. It's better to tan slowly and constantly. Always use a cosmetic afterwards. Something with vitamin B that helps your skin repair faster. Sun burn can be very subtile. Just cause you don't look like a lobster doesn't mean you're not burned. If your feeling itchy or sensitive it's also sunburn so spend less time under the solarium.

The 'dangers' of tanning are highly overrated anyways. Especially of artificial tanning, which is actually SAFER than sun tanning because it's more reliable. Overdoing anything is harmful, same with tanning. Smoke 30 cigarettes a day and you will get lung cancer sooner or later... smoke 1 every 3 days and there is no way in hell you get lung cancer (at least not from the cigarettes).
 

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it depends on the shape you are in.
i usually tan right before summer hits while getting
really cut up.

i've done self-tanners also-
one made me look like a carrot and the other made
me look Nigerian.
i didn't feel any better about myself and i looked like s*it,
i am sure there are better self-tanners out there now...
 

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Use solariums regularly and don't be surprised when you get skin cancer. It's as simple as that. You just have to ask yourself, which is worse: light skin or cancer later in life? Don't let anyone fool you into thinking solariums are safe and risk-free and that the dangers are "overrated". They're like this generation's version of the people who'd used to tell you to get a "healthy tan"......that's an oxymoron if I've ever heard one.
 

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I guess loads of people who live in dry desert areas with little to no shade must die from skin cancer then...

Just look at all the african bushmen... they die from skincancer by the numbers right?

I stand by what i said. Fry on beaches 24/7 you're much more likely to get skin cancer than by visiting a quality solarium from time to time...
 

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Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Use solariums regularly and don't be surprised when you get skin cancer. It's as simple as that. You just have to ask yourself, which is worse: light skin or cancer later in life? Don't let anyone fool you into thinking solariums are safe and risk-free and that the dangers are "overrated". They're like this generation's version of the people who'd used to tell you to get a "healthy tan"......that's an oxymoron if I've ever heard one.
so i suppose you have real empirical data to back up your claims?

i love people who just come in and spout crap like that when it really isnt clear.

is it good for you? probably not.

is it as bad as you make it sound? i doubt it.

we should know the risks, and live our lives the way we want to live. there are always tradeoffs. the milk you have with your cereal might be much more dangerous as a carcinogen (sp?) than tanning. you never know.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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why don't you just accept who you are, a WHITE guy.
 

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Why can't I delete this message?
 

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Originally posted by C00L
i feel like tanning makesme break out...
Isn't that a Foo Fighters song?

:p
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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