"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going out.

Ciel

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Hey guys,

I'm a confident guy, I pretty much have no real problem talking to people and I also like to do a lot of things. However, its the summer holiday, and I'm jobless at the moment, so when I'm not doing anything and I just want to go out, everyone I know flakes because of "No money" or other reasons along those lines.

This has been a real dent in going out and meeting people, because all it takes is one friend for my confidence to shine, but going out alone just seems sad to me.

Any tips and the like?

Thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There are beaches where you can swim for free.
There are parks where you can run/jog for free.
Heck, there are even junkyards you can dig for gold in for free.

What's the problem?
 

Ciel

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London, rain, no beaches etc etc.

I'm actually going crazy trapped at home in this depressing weather because no one else wants to go out in it.
 

scribblec

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lol no money is the same for me, i usually go out when i get paid and for the first 2 weeks i get all the going out out of my system.


if your willing to pay i dont mind sarging :D all that is needed is entrance fee really

and yea even in the middle of summer its raining in london...
 

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Its my day game that I want to improve, so money isn't even an issue. Just find a high street and walk up and down, but nobody seems to want to do this with me lmao
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've gone out by myself over a dozen times (at least) this year. This is the sort of thing that I used to be terrified of but I've come to learn it's really straightforward. Virtually no one has any idea that you're there alone, and no one really cares if you admit that you are. The surprised reactions that I've had tend to be on the positive side (wow, that's impressive) rather than negative (God, you're a loser then, aren't ya); but frankly, these days, even if someone smirks behind my back about it, I could hardly care less. People tend to guess me as being mid-20s (though I'm actually older) so it might seem to them more normal for a person of that age to be out alone, rather than someone who is 20, as you are. Still, it can't hurt you to try it, now, can it?
 

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I have yet to pretty much go out on a PROPER day-sarging session because everyone keeps cancelling on me, and I just wanna do this first time with a friend, its tough lmao. Ah well.
 

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I used to do that too. I used to rely on friends to go out with me, take trips with me, etc.

Then I got fed up and traveled pretty much all over the world by myself. Things have been a lot better since I decided to do that.
 

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if you need friends around you in order to boost your confidence enough to holler at women then YOU HAVE NO GAME
 

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practice day game at coffee shops, book stores, shopping malls, beaches. personally i think day game would be akward if you were with your wingman anyway. daygame is built for solo sarging.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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J Roc said:
if you need friends around you in order to boost your confidence enough to holler at women then YOU HAVE NO GAME
Thing is, I'm actually alone when I go in for the approach, its just nice to have friends to laugh about it all with once I'm done. I know its a bad excuse, I do, but for some reason its a big obstacle to me.

I don't need friends to approach with me, I need friends to be there in-between approaches.
 
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