"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Going out to clubs/bars alone.

SamTheHobit

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I've become so sick of relying on other people to do things with, so alas I had two Smirnoff drinks and said fvck it and off I went.

And I can tell you I had the best night in years!

I didn't have to listen to any friends complaining, I didn't have to drag people out with me. And more importantly it forced me to meet new people. I met tons of people, people bought be drinks met a couple of women not that it was my goal.

So yeah, I highly recommend going out solo, make sure you have alcohol though because that will calm your nerves.

If you have any solo stories, feel free to post em.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mangotot

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I used to go solo and end up becoming buddies with some of the people I met. The key is to be ultra social you can't stand about like a lonely wallflower. You got to talk to pretty much anyone and everyone nearby.

I remember before getting into game, one time I was lonely as hell and went out alone. Got talking to this black dude who said 'pay me 20 and I'll hang out with you'. It was so low brow. Obviously I didn't but the lengths people will go to make money of you.
 
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I've yet to completely come to terms with solo nightlife, but by day I am very much a lone wolf.

It has always been very annoying to me how my friends and peers had an excuse for everything.
 

PeasantPlayer

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I only go local and I have a good time myself to. Most of my friends are awkward and shy when it comes to women.
 

MOTU

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I have found that medium size l, busy but not crowded venues with a long bar are my fav for going solo. It's easier to be social than at overly packed places or places with more of a lounge setup. I also do well at small venues. Live music is always a plus as it gives you something to do if you aren't chstting anyone up.

Agree with above, you have to chat with anyone, not just chicks you wanna bang.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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old married dude

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If you're more sigma-like it's fun & easy to pull off. Just be social like others have said & make yourself look interesting/mysterious so that you'll stand out. I'm usually drinking things no one has ever really heard of before and that's enough of a conversation starter most times.
 

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Use to go "Solo" all the time my most epic experiences where when I went alone

I went alone last week on a dead night (Day after St Patricks day) met a successful children author who basically bought me drinks all night long story short but I had to ditch him guy had some serious issues once he got drunk
 

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I went solo sometimes to meetup groups, and those are really easy to bond with others since no one knows each other and they all have same purpose in mind; get to know more people and make friends, so everyone comes from same place. I didn't like soloing to bars that much. everyone comes with their cliques and I felt out of the place to force myself into convos. it's a lot easier to have a friend or two to go to bar with and naturally meet more people by making small talks with random strangers and girls. but that's just me, don't exactly enjoy soloing
 
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