Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Going out Solo?

Weezy

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So I'm 30... And most of my good wings are married or not that into going out anymore.

I still get carded all the time and have great success when I do go out.. but finding a wing is tough.

What do you guys suggest? Do you just go solo, or do you try and find a good wing?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Splendidostring

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I don't believe in "wings". They can only end up ****-blocking you. Just find some people you know (not friends) who are going out and tag along. Then start searching among the "x" population.

gl.
 

blue_eyed_devil

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First post in a long time. I don't even remember my old username. Been in an LTR, out of it, now. Back in the game and WOW, has it changed.

But here's what works for me. It worked at 32, and it works now at 38.

Go solo. Always.

But go someplace to DO SOMETHING. Don't go to a bar to drink alone and look at girls, don't go to a club to stand around alone and look for girls to dance with. That makes you look pathetic.

Go to an art gallery. Go to a book signing. Go to a concert. Go to a rodeo. Go snowboarding. If you're somewhere having a good time -- and NOT looking around to get laid -- you will meet girls. Women like guys who are fun.

Seriously, wherever you go, don't be looking around scanning for chicks. Women spot that action a hundred yards away and you are dead in the water when they see you on the hunt, especially if you're older. If you're having fun and you talk to a girl who's also having fun -- hey! You're 90% of the way there. Lock up a date and then close the deal. It also helps close the age gap if you meet while doing something you both enjoy.

The plus side is, if you go out to do something you enjoy and you DON'T meet any girls, then you still did something you enjoy. No more "wasted nights."
 

Forty0ztoFreedom

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The worst part is just getting up and going in there yourself. That anxiety. Its like we fear everyone in the bar stopping and laughing because you didn't have anyone to go with. Once you're in its not that bad. I end up drifting off alone at times when I'm with friends anyway. Who could tell the difference? And once you do start chatting people up, most outsiders would assume you went together, or at least met up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Romeo1

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Im with OP!

Yeah me two,i usually go out with my buds,but some times,they either have no money,or dont wanna go out.None of these guys as my wingmen,there just buds i go out with,but dang i wish i had someone on da same page as me,so i agree with the OP on this i two need advice on this! In the end i just end up staying home,when i really wanna go out,i get held back!
 
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