Going out solo, do you talk to guys?

[alx]

If you're out on your own do you only approach women or guys as well? What kind of groups would you look for to approach?

 

[resilient]

It's good to approach everybody. You'll want to get in a calibrated social frame before you approach more challenging sets. It decreases approach anxiety, establishes social proof, helps you fine tune body language, tonality, delivery, rapport, and listening skills.

Start with:

• Waiting staff
• Valet guy
• Bartender
• Hired guns

 

[wifehunter]

Yep, talk to everyone, and you just might run into a hot lady!

 

[wolf]

One of if not the best night out I ever had wss in Glasgow in Scotland. I live in England and took a Solo trip there while under the spell of a BPD girl I was dating.

My last stop was Glasgow and I did a mini tour around the city to spot some busy bars. Found one and went back to my Hostel to freshen up.

Hit the Bar across the street and stood at the Bar with a beer. Within 10 mins this Dude wanted to buy me a beer but I didn't read the social que and he sauntered back to his seat. 10 mins later I'm dancing with a group of random people (both sexes) A dude buys me a drink and says "These are my friends. Choose any woman you like" or words to that effect. So I danced and drank with the group and had a blast. Then when they went home I carried on the night with 2 sweedish girls. 1 wanted to bang but she was sharing a room with her friend and I was sharing a Hostel room with 8 other Guys. She went home. . I went back into the club and met an English Girl and her guy friends. We hit the Casino and I went back to hers and smashed. She dropped me back at my Hostel at around 8am and I drove back to England after 3 hours sleep.

BEST NIGHT EVER!!

Bare in mind I was in the throws of Depression but made sure I went with the flow and it was damn worth it!!
Just let go...

 

[Bible_Belt]

People who are miserably lonely usually try to talk to everybody, even if other people don't want to hear it. I think it's fine to say hello, or a short sentence or two to a stranger, but by that time you had better start picking up on whether that person wants to talk to you or not. There are plenty of people out there who will enjoy your conversation, but a lot of them will not. Learn to tell the difference.

 

[ubercat]

I m always curious about this idea of talking to the bartender. In Melbourne the cues always 4 deep at the bar. And the bartender s r sneering hipsters who live to make u look uncool and throw yr change at u

 

[SmooveMooves]

Only talk to the hired guns in banter. Nothing too deep. As for others, I always find it weird when some guy by himself tries to join my group at a venue. We often blow him off and I find that to be the typical case. At least in the U.S.

IMO, unless you're a regular somewhere, you should always be going out with at least one other person. This ensures that you can focus on having fun instead of pulling and that you're not viewed as some sort of social outcast who didn't have a single friend to go out with.

 

[ubercat]

I'd agree with this morso nowadays. 10 years ago a group might accept you if you're a pretty cool guy. Now the level of hostility and c0ck blocking is off the hook

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Only talk to the hired guns in banter. Nothing too deep. As for others, I always find it weird when some guy by himself tries to join my group at a venue. We often blow him off and I find that to be the typical case. At least in the U.S.

IMO, unless you're a regular somewhere, you should always be going out with at least one other person. This ensures that you can focus on having fun instead of pulling and that you're not viewed as some sort of social outcast who didn't have a single friend to go out with.

I'll arrange to meet a mate at a bar for a drink. I always like to arrive a bit earlier and, often get talking to a lady at the bar. Best of both worlds.