Going out "as friends"?

[Gonzalo]

Hello people. So yesterday I was talking to this female friend of mine about this girl I went out the other day. My friend mentioned that when you ask a girl out or during the date you have to give some sense that you're not just there as friends, 'cause that's what they might think. I thought this was all BS, and told her why would I go out of my way to ask a girl out just to be friends?

Do you guy give some sort of indication other than kino/CF/kiss at the date that this isn't a friends gathering? G

 

[shyguy]

same here

Bro i am in the same boat. i went out with this chick like for 4 dates already. she is a virgin and doesnt seem that shy. we made out and ****, but she doesnt show much interest. like she wil never call me or ask when im free. i always have to make the first move after like knowing her for a couple months already. im stuck!!

i would make it well know then u want to get in this girls pants. usually the girl is the one it seems like in the past, if they were into me asking me about a "exclusive" realationship becuase i never really wanted one, so they get curious is ur just messing around with them for a little pleasure then bouncing. cant give much advice here cause im stumped to.

 

[SDBmania]

Why not just be direct? I know I have no exspierance in dating, but it seems to me the logical thing to do is say you want to "date." Say you want to be more then friends.

 

[Big Pappy]

Ouch! I feel old!

Do we really need to define the difference between a friend and a date?

A date is nothing more than an appointment to do something. It is commonly inferred that there is a budding or present romantic feeling between the two parties.

Going at as friends. There are many people that begin their relationships as friends. They do this because they have experienced a good deal of disappointment in the opposite gender. Alternatively, they may have not even been looking for a relationship. They may have just stumbled into it. It takes longer to get intimate, but the level of intimacy is more comfortable, once it is reached -- In my experience anyway.


If your "date" is unclear about whether or not you are going out as friends, I suspect that she will figure out your intentions at the end of the evening when you try to kiss her.

So, don't sweat it. If she freaks and it doesn't work out, just work it back in.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Ouch! I feel old!

Do we really need to define the difference between a friend and a date?

A date is nothing more than an appointment to do something. It is commonly inferred that there is a budding or present romantic feeling between the two parties.

Going at as friends. There are many people that begin their relationships as friends. They do this because they have experienced a good deal of disappointment in the opposite gender. Alternatively, they may have not even been looking for a relationship. They may have just stumbled into it. It takes longer to get intimate, but the level of intimacy is more comfortable, once it is reached -- In my experience anyway.


If your "date" is unclear about whether or not you are going out as friends, I suspect that she will figure out your intentions at the end of the evening when you try to kiss her.

So, don't sweat it. If she freaks and it doesn't work out, just work it back in.

Don't question any relationship - it'll always be the girl that questions it. Anyways - do what this guy says.. play it cool.. When is a friend not a friend? When you get down to the sex part of stuff.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

if u talk to her like a friend then she thinks u r a friend if u talk to her like a man that is fulfilling his divine duty and is on a innate and pre-defined mission to conquer his prey and put her under his submission and control then she will see u as the persuer that u r...

simply put it's up to u and your intentions as a man on how she sees and percieves u .