"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going out alone

rhythmic

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So I'm pretty comfortable being by myself - I've never been on a night out alone, though. This weekend I'm house-sitting in the back end of nowhere, no friends anywhere near. But this small town is a very short walk away. No clubs, just four or five pubs.

Anyone got tips for going to these types of places alone? No dancefloors, possibly a live band or two though, definitely a pool table (and I'm not bad at pool). Gotta get out of the house this evening... Don't wanna come off as the crazy guy drinking alone, though!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Purefilth

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just have fun.
You wanna play pool? play pool.
you wanna chat up some hottie? chat up some hottie.
you wanna have a dance? dance.

more than likely there will be a dj and dancefloor in at least 1 of the pubs - its saturday, theres always somewhere :up:
 

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It's all about looking confident in your own skin and not making it seem that your a nervous wreck or anything.

just chill out and just think your awsome .. that's how i work it :)
 

Mr. Bond

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I've actually had some of the most fun at clubs/bars when I go alone. Don't sit by yourself - go meet everyone. I mean EVERYONE. Chicks, Guys, bartender, everyone.
 

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Good luck man. I've done this a few times with little success. It's pretty difficult to do. Just enjoy it and see what happens. I'd say it's a win if you are able to strike up some conversation.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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cfdagola

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sometimes i go out alone when i want to enjoy the company of others. i don't creep i just sorta chill at the bar. have my drinks watch the game usually people end up gravitating towards me. guys, girls doesn't matter. when they see a person alone they go about it two ways. either they talk to you

"hey you see the game?"
"where's your friends?"

or they don't.

however the bartender sorta has to talk to you. chat them up make yourself known but make sure not to cling to them let them talk to other customers and do their thing. pretty soon you'll be recognized as a regular. and usually get some free drinks not to mention the social proof when you do bring friends/females to that bar.
 

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I agree with cfdagola.

If you're alone, try to arrive early enough to get a seat at the bar. Being alone on a bar stool - totally ok as long as you are drinking and/or eating. Standing in a corner holding a drink and just staring -creepy.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I agree with cfdagola.

If you're alone, try to arrive early enough to get a seat at the bar. Being alone on a bar stool - totally ok as long as you are drinking and/or eating. Standing in a corner holding a drink and just staring -creepy.
LOL

yes sitting at the bar is definitely mandatory when you're drinking by yourself. no room at the bar? go home or try another one.

also make sure your eyes don't wander to much. if you gotta look somewhere look towards a far off door. or at the TV regardless what's on. when i first started going out by myself i noticed that i wanted to look at all the scattered booty around but that gets kinda creepy because people notice that.

and yeah like Mike32ct said. Standing in the corner holding a drink while staring at the crowd is kinda weird.
 
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