Going on on a date when sort of sick?

[Herb]

What do you guys think about going on a date with a girl when you're kind of sick with a cold but not noticeably? Like you feel like you're about to be coming on with one and it will probably come out full force the next day, or say you're at the tail end of it but still getting over it and in both cases probably still potentially contagious, especially if you're going to be making out or hooking up.

Yes, of course normally I'd reschedule, but what if this is like more or less your only or last chance with a really cute chick? Like I already postponed a date twice due to unforeseen circumstances, including family issues and work... but I can tell it's getting to the point where she's starting to lose patience and interest simply from lack of face to face contact. I mean I tried to drop a text here and there to stay on the radar but I also don't want to overdo it and get all chatty and friendly with them over the phone before even having a proper first date, like some guys do. That removes the mystique. Once you have a proper in person encounter and experience then it changes things and you have more leeway to move around with, but I feel like you have to establish that sooner rather than later or else your chances will evaporate with them. Unless you've just got some boss-level game and can keep them interested despite that.

Anyway I do have a conscience and I would feel bad about this if I would get them sick. This isn't necessarily someone I would want a long term relationship with though. I guess I answered my own question there.

I guess one half-assed solution would be to go on the date but don't try to hook up and even avoid much physical contact, instead deferring that to a future encounter. With many girls that may as well be tantamount to striking out though right? Not hooking up the first time isn't a bad thing but avoid kino altogether may not be good for your prospects.

 

[RedScorpion]

Just go. You're going to lose her over concerns about sniffles.

Time to pull the trigger and get on this date with her. If it's really bad, you can make an idle comment about being sick while on the date. Then she's aware and can make a decision to reject physical contact or not. Hook up with her if the option presents itself.

It's not like you have herpes. It's a cold. Nice to be concerned for her, but if she does get sick, she'll get over it. You can make some apology about getting her sick later on.

 

[Billtx49]

Mid date - I just started feeling like I’m coming down with something…
She’ll take it from there via her preferences or lack of…
If you definitely know you’re sick close to date time, respect her health and reschedule.

 

[Mazer]

Go on the date. It’s a cold not freakin syphillis. Do you think these bishes out here would give two ****s about you if they were sick. Get out there.

 

[Serenity]

Tell her you have a cold, say you're still up for meeting her if she's ok with it, if not try rescheduling. That way you won't come off as making an excuse to flake, it will not conflict with your conscience and if she goes anyways she shows high interest.

I do not recommend concealing it and going anyways. You wouldn't like if a girl gave you cold that way, don't be the type of person you don't like.

 

[MatureDJ]

Well, if you're contagious, then stay at home and call her, and tentatively ask for her schedule in a week or so, so that when you feel better, you can meet her. By all means, don't play games here, as "calling in sick" is misused as "game" with men with a "harem" of "plates". If you are not contagious but still feeling a little off, then go for the meeting, tell her that you're not feeling well, but not so bad that you can't do anything (use the same level of sick as determining whether you would go to work), then apologize for wanting to go back. Heck, she might want to come back with you (don't use it as an opportunity to make a move; you're supposed to be sick!)

Now of course, women can use this as an excuse. I once had a gal that seemed to get sick or have some other excuse about half the time we had plans. I NEXTED her after her first excuse, but she reached out to me after this, so it bought her some brownie points. However, after too many no-shows, I NEXTED her. I often wonder if she was on meds.

 

[Herb]

I ended up just going. I took a bunch of Emergen C and Dayquil that day and felt at least decent for the duration of the night, although I started getting physically tired over the course of our rather long date in the 92 degree 90% humidity heat outside walking around.

But the date went awesome. She was very game the whole time, even though I dropped on her that I may be coming down with something. She didn't really seem to mind. In fact she actually basically pulled me toward her outside to make out, and we did several times. Eventually I came back to her place and wrapped it up there, pun intended. I played this one very smooth. I didn't talk too much and kept a pretty suave, reserved manner, thinking about my responses. Actually the fatigue I was feeling might have helped in that regard, since I wasn't in the mood for too much talk and wasn't bursting with energy in my usual ADD-like manner.

She did end up getting a little sick later but didn't seem to mind that much and got over it pretty fast. We will be meeting again. This girl seems to like me almost too much. I'll have to be careful. She is definitely cute but I'm still sad cause I'm still having trouble with the girl I truly want, who I screwed up some prime opportunities with already. FML.