Going on a trip with people who I don't know

[SayWhat]

Hi all

I have the opportunity to go on a trip with 4 other people of which one I know.

I'm putting this here because I don't know if I should go. As I said I only know one of them and I'm known as a silent guy, I need booze to talk some more (even with people I know). As I don't want to be ruining the trip (although that's exaggerated of course), it would be more fun for everyone if I would be a more talkative person. I've had a previous trip where I want on holiday with another girl and she basically said I was way to silent and that ruined the trip for her, so I guess that's where the fear is coming from.

Now I'm trying to change this 'silent' personality of me for some while now, and although this might be a good opportunity, I think it's possible it might have the wrong effect because it might be too 'much' at once.

What do you think about it?

 

[trent_afc]

Is the trip to a place that you want to visit? Did the one you know ask you to go on the trip? If so, he/she probably told the other 3 that you're quiet, and they're cool with it. Plus, IMO, it's easier to be the quiet one in a large group since there is less pressure for you to carry the conversation, as opposed to a one on one holiday. So you can just jump into the conversation when you feel like it instead of feeling pressured to break any awkward silences.

This seems like a good opportunity for you to practice being more outgoing without too much pressure.

 

[SayWhat]

Yeah I do want to go there, but think I will ruin it for them

 

[Mike32ct]

Are you going with all guys? Or a mix of girls and guys?

Guys will be much more understanding of you being quiet. I can't imagine a dude saying you ruined his trip by being quiet. That girl that said that to you was just being a bytch. Forget what she said.

It sounds like you really want to go. You have one guy friend so far. If you need a drink here and there, go for it. You're on holiday/vacation anyway.

Some of us are just observers. We're quiet because we are taking everything in. It's ok.

Being quiet doesn't bring people down. Being SAD does. There is a BIG difference between a quiet guy having a good time and a quiet guy feeling sorry for himself. Don't be the latter.

 

[SayWhat]

One guy (excluding me) and three girls.

Yeah it's an island I've never been before, but yeah I don't know, I'm too insecure with new people

 

[Tomo]

No time like today to start having some fun and being who you want to be. Going somewhere different and unknown is like a free pass to letting your inner inhibitions go. I would honestly encourage you to go. Find a way to relax and let your insecurity go. Girls don't need you to be talking just learn how to carry the conversation with simple words, connecting things she says and that is all you need to do. You're a guy. You can do what and anything yuou want especially if you want to!

Last time I went on a random trip similiar to yours, I made friends for life and expanded my social circle most definately. Your actions will define whether you stick to being a chump on a laptop or someone going somewhere.

 

[Mike32ct]

One guy (excluding me) and three girls.

Yeah it's an island I've never been before, but yeah I don't know, I'm too insecure with new people

Go for it. You might even score. Girls on an island are usually looking to get laid.

Besides, the guy wouldn't have invited you if he didn't think you were cool.

I know how you feel about new people. I'm the same, but sometimes you have to give them a chance. Even if you only click with one or two of them, that's fine; it's all you need.

Buy the first round of drinks. Get buzzed. Have fun.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Girls love to talk about themselves, if you are the quiet guy which doesnt speak much you will be loved from them as long as you listen with interest their bvllsh1t.

I do this trick myself, anytime Im too lazy or uninsterested in someone I do open questions about themselves and let the flood run, dont forget to nod when you sense their tone to increase.

 

[trent_afc]

Yeah I do want to go there, but think I will ruin it for them
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I'm too insecure with new people

Stop being a b!tch. You need to force yourself to do this, whether you're comfortable with it or not. You know it and I know it. You're putting too much pressure on yourself, and toomuch weight in what others may or may not think of you (and you've already been invited...wtf?). Fvck the other people. Just go and try to have a good time, because YOU want to go and have a good time. Do what the other posters have suggested: don't be sad, ask the chicks about themselves, and drink!!!

 

[pdx1138]

You need to force yourself to do this, whether you're comfortable with it or not.

^^THIS

It will be uncomfortable at first, but will also help you become more social.
I did this a few times (trips with people I didn't know or barely knew)

It was uncomfortable at first, but ended up being a very fun experience
and helped me in social development.

Do it. but be positive.

 

[narcissist]

Dude, how do you want to look back on your life when your 95 years old on your death bed?

Do you want to remember yourself as the guy who couldn't get over his insecurities and never truly experienced the joys of life?

Or do you want to remember yourself as the guy who told your insecurites you fvck off and went and entered life with complete boldness?

Pick one.

We all feel insecure and uncomfortable.. What defines you is how you choose to deal with it. Ignore it and enjoy life or let it live a miserable life for you.

 

[narcissist]

Plus im fvcking jealous u have this opportunity.. Im in bum fvck canada right now and its colder than mount everests nut sack..

So please go for me.

 

[gravityeyelids]

GO for fvcks sake. like narcissist said, its freezing where i am too

 

[narcissist]

bump.

i want to hear you say your going.

if you don't go your wasting your life.

 

[the_stig]

You'll most likely regret never going, if that's the choice you make.

If you decide to go, I doubt you'll look back on the experience thinking "Gee, wish I would have stayed home instead of visiting this beautiful island".

I've had a handful of similar experiences in my life, afraid to step outside my comfort zone for fear of not fitting in or having fun, but it's always turned out much better than I expected and I have no regrets. Chances are you'll warm up to everyone in the group after a day or two and have a good time. Don't over-think and cheat yourself out of some lasting memories.