"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Going in for surgery tomorrow

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I made it through, guys.

Almost unbearable pain when I woke up, but it has settled down.

Younger nurses are responding quite well. Details later. I've got this incredibly cute volunteer finding every excuse she can to come into my room and chat. Sent her out to the drug store to get me some cough drops.

Lesson: Get a girl to serve you and she's in the palm of your hand as this touches upon her very primal instincts.

I have a lot of painful hard work ahead today as they get me up and about for the first time. Thanks again for all the support, fellas.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atom Smasher said:
I made it through, guys.

Almost unbearable pain when I woke up, but it has settled down.

Younger nurses are responding quite well. Details later. I've got this incredibly cute volunteer finding every excuse she can to come into my room and chat. Sent her out to the drug store to get me some cough drops.

Lesson: Get a girl to serve you and she's in the palm of your hand as this touches upon her very primal instincts.

I have a lot of painful hard work ahead today as they get me up and about for the first time. Thanks again for all the support, fellas.
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Turns out L2/L3 were fractured and this was invisible in the MRIs. Surgeons had to pull out bone fragments, harvest some additional bone from my back and fuse the vertebrae with a cement made from bone and certain other substances. Then a titanium brace was screwed in. Pain is massive in spite of drugs. Just gotta hang tough.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Turns out L2/L3 were fractured and this was invisible in the MRIs. Surgeons had to pull out bone fragments, harvest some additional bone from my back and fuse the vertebrae with a cement made from bone and certain other substances. Then a titanium brace was screwed in. Pain is massive in spite of drugs. Just gotta hang tough.
Wow man, that hurt me just reading it. :nervous:

Hope all goes well.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thanks. New pain doc just came in and is hooking me back up to the morphine. This pain is unbelievable. No escape...
 

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Nice work with that nurse. Good advice for the next time I go in... BJ report soon? Keep taking those drugs, you'll need em, if you got any extra save some for the homies.
 

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Youch, sounds painful. Well, at least enjoy the morphine? Get well soon, brother.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm back home, guys. Pain is still off the charts. I'm able to walk around and such, but I really am biting the bullet all day. It's only going to get better from here.

Had to teach a young, nasty East-European or Russian nurse who the boss is. You guys would undoubtedly consider her an absolute, no argument ten. Too much pain to write about it now, but I will in the near future. Amazing how those entitled, stuck up "you-know-whats" respond to a strong hand. Let's just say I handled her for now.

Experimented with the older guy creepiness factor with great success with other extremely young nurses/volunteers. I come off as young vibrant 30-something in RL, but in my hospital bed in massive pain I was the older guy. Played around with how to overcome the creepy effect to great effect. Again, too much pain to get into it now, more later.

Thanks again to all my well-wishers. For the spiritually-minded, please keep me in your prayers for pain relief and avoidance of infection. For the others, your good wishes expressed toward me are genuinely appreciated.

I missed you all.
 

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I asked him about that a long time ago... I remember him saying he didn't.
Wrong... You'd better believe I'm suing her ass. I already have a summary judgment against her (other side admits guilt).

Challenge is that in New York State, satisfactory back injury settlements are notoriously difficult to get. NYS is well known for this in legal circles. Still, the surgeons had no idea my spine was actually shattered, so that helps my case enormously. The other side was hanging its hat on some kind of pre-existing condition (I've never had a back problem in my life prior to accident.

Hard to believe I've been walking around and working hard with a broken back for the past 3 years.
 
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