"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Going good but what now...?

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Ok out of a long story here is a nutshell version of my recient goings on.

Met this great girl that is HB7 with HB9 Face and a great personality. has a booooring boyfriend which doesnt seam to do anything fun that she likes to do. (Dance, water sports, rollerskate, etc.) First love and highschool sweetheart though so she does love him but shure has a great time with me and drive an hour to my house to proove it lol. Never has flaked once and is game to meet up any time she has time off. I dont want to be the one to break them up so to speak but I do want to continue to look like a much better catch to her then her present..... guy. He might be jealous or not I dont know. It seams he keeps making lame excuses to not hang out like "I got some unfinished things i need to get done" and she mentioned that he didnt feal comfortable having her come to my house to practice salsa before we went to the salsa dance place. (kinda club/Kinda bar. reall classy place) and that he is trying to find himself being 21, living at home (We both dont see whats wrong with that but whatever) and stuff like that.

So for now it looks like I have the upperhand for sure with this one. (a first for me but sure feals natural since i finally found a girl that isnt so Flaky and fake) and im just wondering if maby she is having fun but trying to use me to just make him jealous and get him off his ass maby... Or maby I might have a good chance of getting her once she figures out he isnt coming around and after a year of boredom she is ready for a more fun and adventurous man.

I do love having her as a friend but as a girlfriend would be even better. (for now i respect her when we dance and all and we kino enouth but im not going to be boyfriendish with her untill she is single)

The only problem I have with this is since I still never had a GF.. How would I go about switching from friend to BF/GF if i find out shees single... What initiates the switch.. What do you say, do, etc.. Ive never seen that actually go on except the few girls that tell their long time friends/crushes that they are now their boyfriends. (pvssy wipped poor saps)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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it seems like she is having a good time with you. but i don't know if she thinks you are SAFE or if she knows you are attracted.

are you her FRIEND? or her POTENTIAL boyfriend? only one way to find out, dont overthink it dont analyse it

KISS HER, that is it, if you are just a chump to her or "the friend" who she uses to get anything her boyfriend wont give her with out giving it up, and puts barriers of friendship between you two so SHE gets what SHE wants but you GET CONFUSED.
you will find out just by doing a simple act
KISS HER

then tell me what happened. if you want to have doubts and think what if?
shoulda? woulda? then dont do anything and continue things as they are.

your choice
 

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So true and I have wanted to kiss her on some of these inch away spins I put her through where she ends soo cute and she really looks like she is trying to lure me so to speak... But she is a good girl and if she doesnt think the same as me on this... it could end badly. Im thinking ill wait a bit longer, just to keep that interest up and see if she finally gets tired of Mr. Social and more. (ive only known her for a little over a month...) Once that happens then the sexy spin shall end with a sweet finish. You think an intentional kiss that was made to look like a misjudged distance calculation on a spin might get a reaction in her I could work off of or does it need to be one of thoes alone talking kinda close unexpected ones? lol
 

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Sorry sounds like you are in the friendzone. If you want to have sex with her someday you need to either back right off until she is single or push the relationship forward sexually now. There is no middlezone here - well there is but its called the friendzone.
 

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Alright dude. First, thing.. you don't plan when and how you're gonna kiss a girl. If you have been hanging out with her for this long and haven't kissed her already, she might think of you as just a friend and fun to hang out with. So yes you do need to make a move if you want to be dating her. If she is responsive, good job. If not.. big deal. You learn as you go, right?

And on another note.. you should still be out doing your own thing and being a challenge. Not because you want to be a challenge to seduce this girl, but because you're a man with goals. Too busy moving mountains and swimming across oceans to be worried about one particular girl. She must pass your tests, not the other way around.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oh no doubt. I have my own life and she seams like she enjoys getting some time in it since her present BF is a complete bore from what i have sean. if she doesnt want to come along then fine but for the most part she hasnt flaked yet lol. On the side note its like 2 times a week we meet up the rest im workin, skiing, and whatnot. I am a busy guy and she knows that. Another note my friends have noticed are when another girl shows up that she doesnt know and im either friends with or even my sister, she looks kinda jealous they say.. So that must be a good thing lol.

I know im in a friendzone already and purposly I put myself there because I do not want her cheating on her BF.. (When they do it to theirs they can do it to you) but im positioning myself as the prize of a much better catch. I act like a friend to her but we do joke around, kino, etc and dancing helps aswell. Kinda my plan for now is wait a little longer but drive her nuts a bit more if she is fealing that way some. My sister has a few hot friends she is trying to get here for me to meet. Were thinking it would be something to make her interest go up more since im not alll into her alone like all the guys she has knows in the past were. (She seams like she knows she can have any guy so when she cant... what now?) after a bit more time or whatnot i guess ill just chance it. if not i have my sisters friends lol.
 

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krasnyiLion said:
it seems like she is having a good time with you. but i don't know if she thinks you are SAFE or if she knows you are attracted.

On this SAFE issue, We were at this Mexican Club where this one guy kept grinding her and she didnt like it. Well he wouldnt leave her alone much after she finally breaks free. A few days later he shows up at her work at midnight right as she is getting off. Spooks the heck out of her. Turns out he knows one of the cooks at her work but it still isnt right what he did. With this happening she texted me at midnight to see if im up. (too damn hot to sleep so i was) she calls me and tells me about this. i kinda lighten it up and joke like you wanna hold him for 45min so i can run up there and beat his ars or somethin? Though I didnt like that he was almost stalking her.

The problem I have with screwing this up is im not all emotional on how I Want to be her BF and Want to get into her pants bla bla. Morso I enjoy dancing with her, taking and jokeing around with her and just being her friend.. Though Not the Friend that most AFC's become which is just the tell me your problems and crap while i wish i was with you then go off and get all felt up with your bf. It seams moreso to me that she likes me but im playing it cool and not giving her the interest she wants which is why i want to wait untill i get a clear sign ourside of something so volital. Others that im with are saying she might be using me to make her bf jealous and its not working from my view. Even if it was he could never catch me.

On the other side this was my first hint. Her Boyfriend didnt pick up that night and unlike justa basic I wanna talk or something message, this one was kinda important to me. She kinda went on how he was a punk and didnt pick up. Guess I should make a move soon here. But if I screw this up it will be hard to find another dance partner as good as her... ahh decisions decisions.. Ima go drink a volt and finish workin. I think to damn much. I guess im just lookin for a similar situation someone here has had and it all went good.
 

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So you are doing things with her hoping that they break her and her BF. Basically in a non-blunt way. Dude, date other girls. Why? She has a BF.
 

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Ya i agree... Problem is Where the hell are the single ones!?!? Where I live there are the Women worth being with that are taken... Then there are the single ones that arent worth getting anything close to. I have yet to find that middle ground of the HB6+ without the BF wether cool or dork. Not like im Desperate or anything but over the semester I make like 6 friends with girls and they all have bf's then the ones that dont and like the AFC of women but on an extreme level.

thats my only problem with this. I like this girl but shees taken.. I always seam to miss the opening when they finally are single so thats why i want to play it safe and jump in when i see the time is right.
What sucks is she is my age and acts mature. Maby thats another part of my problem because im attracted to more mature acting women that are either in relationships or married.. (ya..) im guessing its because they dont feal threatened but then i meet the ones that are younger little 18-20yo's that have that highschool brittany acting way and i just have not interest in shopping at the mall with your little bubble gum friends you know?
 

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Aight final question then... last night we had a good time but I have seen her a bit much reciently. She wanted to get together after I got off work tonight? Doing what I dono but my trip home from work goes near where she lives. My family says I should let off for a bit but I was the one to say lets meet up after Im off work (she has the day off). My dad did want to go and check out a motorhome tonight so I could use that as a reason but should I flake on my own plans when she hasn't yet?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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