Going from platonic relationship to dating

[Prodoge]

I am sure everybody has been in a situation where you go out to an event, to the shops or whatever with a particular goal and somehow end up having a friendly chat with someone, nothing more in mind. Or otherwise when you can't attempt anything because the circumstances aren't favourable.

I mean for example last w-e I was at the open house day of the local fire station (I live in small village with maybe a 1000 people) with a couple of friends. After a few beers we were joking around and they said i should join the fire brigade (volunteer). This happened at the bar so this girl who is part of the fire brigade and who was behind the bar overheard this and started chatting to us (mostly with me since I was partly interested and asking questions about what you have to do to join). This was the first time I ever spoke to her but of course it's a small village and every one kinda knows who you are. Even if I wanted to, it was just not the right time or place to start any flirting attempts or even basic kino.

The thing is she is a bit older than I am (I am 20, she is around 23/24 I think), and only moved to the village a few years ago with her boyfriend as I discovered afterwards but I have no idea if she is still with him.

I had the idea of giving the fire brigade a go since I am rather interested (not only because she is doing it lel), and get to know her bit more with the goal of trying to go for a date.

The problem is I dont know how to approach her in a non platonic way because she (I think) just came out of a LTR, is older than me, has a job and move to the area because of her BF, whereas I am still student.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

You're not even platonic with her yet so don't worry about that.

Just do the fire brigade volunteer thing because YOU want to, and when you see her there, chat her up and go for the digits.

Don't worry about offending her, she probably expects you to approach her anyway. Women respect men who go for what they want with confidence, just remember that above all else.

 

[Prodoge]

You know what's funny is that in the station there is a sheet on the wall with the details of all members including phone numbers. But that would have been creepy AF

You're not even platonic with her yet so don't worry about that.

Sure, what I mean is usually when you meet someone new you dont talk to them with the intention of being friends.

Also I feel like at the moment I am not doing a lot of social stuff except going out with mates on w-e's so doing this firebrigade thing would be a great way of meeting new people and socializing more.

 

[RangerMIke]

Ask her out. If she says no, well you know where you stand. Move on to the next one. Don't waste your time trying to figure things out, unless you are getting OBVIOUS red flags (she avoids you, speaks openly about her BF, vomits when she looks at you) assume you have a shot until she tells you otherwise.

 

[Genesis5]

Fortune favors the bold my friend.