Going from a major loser to a guy with a 'life'

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Holland
Nobody is born with good social skills

False.

 

[Holland]

No, it's learned, now some people might learn faster then others, but that's a whole other thing.

 

[Viper]

Well guys, today I'm finally going to make a change, I'm GOING to join a sport, which means, I'm not only thinking about joining a sport, I AM going to join a sport. My mind most set on wrestling, not only well it help get stronger, if I learn how to wrestle, if someone tries to fight my ass, I have the advantage; I've heard weight classes can be a b*tch and ocassionally, you will wrestle gay dudes, but I won't let that hold me back, one of my friends who's on the wrestling team says you even fight girls sometime . I might join swimming though, but personally I don't think I'm fit enough for it, the fact that I run out of breath fast, also works to that disadvantage. But yeah, sometime this week, maybe even today, I'm thinking about joining a sport, don't know how fun it will be, but hey. As for clubs, I've pretty much got my mind set on Jazz Band.

 

[we all eat food]

^ thanks to my aim conversation to him

my main topic to him was
JUST LET GO!

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by we all eat food
^ thanks to my aim conversation to him

my main topic to him was
JUST LET GO!

Well, not completely, but yes, you did help me make my choice.
Well, wrestling starts tommorow, now all I need to do is get my parents to sign a few forms and I'll be on the team tommorow.

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Holland
No, it's learned, now some people might learn faster then others, but that's a whole other thing.

False.

It's called being a "natural".

Some people have talent, and some people don't for certain things.

With what you said, no one is born with a talent.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You learn how to socialize, just like you learn how to fear certain things.

 

[JH6]

dude, when i was in high school I was very similar to you. I basically did nothing but **** around on my computer and hang out with geek friends, or play ****ty video games. My parents had divorced, I was young, and there was alot of bull**** going on.

My social skills were ****ty, i couldn't even talk to a girl, let alone get laid.

My journey to DJ was quite a long one, and I'm still working on it to this day.

Now, my brother is a few years younger than I am (3 years), so i started hanging out with him and his group of friends. Going to parties, drinking, with a good guy to girl ratio. That really helped me out, just chilling with people.

So then I really got into my car club, I met alot of local guys, and a few local girls. I have met some lifelong friends from there, and even though some of us have grown up and drive regular cars not hot rods, we still hang out.

Also, it sounds gay or whatever, but I got on myspace. A friend told me about it, I made a page, threw up some pictures of myself, and wham, I have a social life.

These three things really helped me out alot. I have no steady girlfriend, but almost have one. I have quite a few girls that I hang out with often, and I have a cell phone filled with like 84 contacts the last time I looked. I get laid. I have done hot girls way out of my league, and chubby girls. No pigs, no ugly girls.

I have my ups and downs, sometimes I feel lonely, some times I feel on top of the world.

I've made like a 180 degree turn in my social life and social status, and thats a good thing.

Stick with it man, it pays off.

 

[DJ4Real]

I've never had a problem socializing. No one has taught me how to socialize.

Only thing that I've been taught is how to speak. Since then I've easily made friends.

 

[Viper]

Well, first day of wrestling practice was yesterday, it was exhausting, but it was also fun at the same time. Today, I'm thinking about going to this play at my High School but I'm not sure if its really a good idea, what if the play isn't good? What if I don't enjoy the play? What if the play sucks? I could be spending my time doing other things in that case. The positive things about this is, I wouldn't be spending my Saturday Night at home, like I usually do, more negative things than positive things though.

 

[Brian20o2]

Stop using 'What ifs?'. They are negative and just make you come up with excuses for not doing somthing. If you dont wanna go then dont, but dont waste time coming up with a negative mindset.

However I am glad that you are trying really hard to improve yourself.

 

[oakraiderz2]

check again

 

[John_Smith]

Originally posted by Viper
I want to make more friends, but I'm afraid that if I go up to a random person(Especially, guy) and start conversation, I'll say something stupid, they won't like me/think I'm cool enough, or I'll just get flat out rejected.
I don't post much, but anyways.

WTH??????????????????????????????Welcome back to the real world. That does not EVER happen!!!!!!! (maybe once in 3492929 years). I'm alot of different occupations
(e.g student, entrepreneurs, executive director) so I know people from multimillionaire CEO to gangster/druggies. I've met over 200+ people and what you fear has NEVER happened. Not even once.




My conversational skills are non-existant, to add to that, I have a very hard to understand voice and people often misunderstanding me and I don't think people want to be friends with somebody, that they can't even understand. I'm sure you've heard


My conversational decline didn't just start here either, as a boy I was always shy, didn't really like talking to people,

You sound JUST LIKE HOW I WAS. What I suggest is this

1) Toughen yourself up. I really want to lose the nerdy image. "You know, the "ahh he's such a nerd". So what I did was take up martial arts first of all. Don't be afraid to use them if you have to. Its perfectly legal to use skills in self defense. I respect my instructor alot, but I can't really agree with the "use your skills only if your life is threatened "part . You know what, its important you toughen up and remember that you're better than some people.

2) Also, work on some achievement. I'm no good at most sports so atheletics (besides martial arts) was out of question. I've practiced enough to be average but I know I'll never be a football team captain. Focus on your strength.

For me, I was pretty entrepreneurial so I started my own business and non profit organization. I got it going pretty well and people get really surprised when they find out how young I am. Both groups are running successfully with alot of "big names" and great support from the University (e.g. city hall, bunch of other really big clients). It makes me feel good I'm achieving something.

Lastly, I don't agree with the part of finding something you think is fun. It is well intended but for me it didn't work. That didn't help me when I was severely depressed and getting teased everyday. I was good at school but studying never really helped me. It just made me feel more like a nerd.

Study habits wise, I'm still a nerd and proud of it. But right now, I have a hell of alot of confidence and girls aren't even a problem.

 

[Fitch]

Re: Re: Going from a major loser to a guy with a 'life'

Originally posted by John_Smith

Originally posted by Viper
I want to make more friends, but I'm afraid that if I go up to a random person(Especially, guy) and start conversation, I'll say something stupid, they won't like me/think I'm cool enough, or I'll just get flat out rejected.
I don't post much, but anyways.

WTH??????????????????????????????Welcome back to the real world. That does not EVER happen!!!!!!! (maybe once in 3492929 years). I'm alot of different occupations
(e.g student, entrepreneurs, executive director) so I know people from multimillionaire CEO to gangster/druggies. I've met over 200+ people and what you fear has NEVER happened. Not even once.




My conversational skills are non-existant, to add to that, I have a very hard to understand voice and people often misunderstanding me and I don't think people want to be friends with somebody, that they can't even understand. I'm sure you've heard


My conversational decline didn't just start here either, as a boy I was always shy, didn't really like talking to people,

You sound JUST LIKE HOW I WAS. What I suggest is this

1) Toughen yourself up. I really want to lose the nerdy image. "You know, the "ahh he's such a nerd". So what I did was take up martial arts first of all. Don't be afraid to use them if you have to. Its perfectly legal to use skills in self defense. I respect my instructor alot, but I can't really agree with the "use your skills only if your life is threatened "part . You know what, its important you toughen up and remember that you're better than some people.

2) Also, work on some achievement. I'm no good at most sports so atheletics (besides martial arts) was out of question. I've practiced enough to be average but I know I'll never be a football team captain. Focus on your strength.

For me, I was pretty entrepreneurial so I started my own business and non profit organization. I got it going pretty well and people get really surprised when they find out how young I am. Both groups are running successfully with alot of "big names" and great support from the University (e.g. city hall, bunch of other really big clients). It makes me feel good I'm achieving something.

Lastly, I don't agree with the part of finding something you think is fun. It is well intended but for me it didn't work. That didn't help me when I was severely depressed and getting teased everyday. I was good at school but studying never really helped me. It just made me feel more like a nerd.

Study habits wise, I'm still a nerd and proud of it. But right now, I have a hell of alot of confidence and girls aren't even a problem.

What is the name of your company?