Going for women you are attracted to vs. women attracted to you.

[Listen_to_Olly]

So on my past thread where I said women treat men who look similar to them like chit, I talked about my experience being a swarthy guy. Pale white women, black women, Asian women, and to a degree darker Indian women love me. Meanwhile, latinas and tanned brunettes in general are the most hostile and rude to me, outright nasty at times in social situations. When I am a stranger to them, I have bad experiences.

We've all heard that "opposites attract" and I am starting to think that it is true given my experiences with dating. Here is my dilemma though.

On a sexual level, I am much more attracted to a Salma Hayek, Catherine Zeta Jones, the chick who plays Felix's wife on Narcos: Mexico, and women with that exotic look.

The way I see it, I have two options.

1. Continue to just go for the women from groups that are naturally nicer to me (natural blondes, redheads, pale girls, black girls, Asian girls, and darker Indian girls). I immediately get a good reception from them, match with them a lot on dating apps, get treated well by them socially, and get an overall good vibe going there). Not much proactive "game" would be required, a lot of times I could play not ****ing up game, and I could be happy enough. Every now and then, I might even get with a supermodel-tier girl from those groups.

My only concern here is not going for women I am genuinely attracted to or hit me as deep on a sexual level. Like sex with a hot blonde does not do it for me compared to sex with a hot tanned brunette.

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2. Step way out of my comfort zone and go for women who have historically been rude, hostile, and cold towards me. Go for women with the look and from groups who have given me a tough time and some of my most miserable life experiences.

Go in knowing that a lot of them immediately have a bad view of me on first sight, see me as lesser, and I am going to have to make a case for myself. The good thing is I get sexually fulfilled if it works because I am going for women I am sexually attracted to.

The concern is I am having to bend and almost feel like overcompensate due to being perceived as lesser. Deep down I ask if it is even worth it and perhaps if I am better off having a less than fulfilled sex life. It hurts to know that a woman does not see you as a top notch sexual option like other women might and you had to overcompensate to get her.

 

[Visionist]

I think it's a little far fetched that every single brunette on the planet automatically finds you unattractive.

I think you need to get the hell away from your area if you really wanna get with tanned girls. Is it worth it? It's not like you aren't getting laid already.

 

[Tilex]

Opposites attract is based on masculine/feminine polarity.
A highly masculine man would be attracted to a highly feminine woman, and she would be equally attracted to him.

The part where numbers come into play is when a man has more feminine energy than masculine. A man like this will not attract a highly feminine woman.
He will attract Tomboys, women that never wear makeup, or women that just don't know how to dress sexy.
I'm sure you've seen these types of women before.

 

[Soldier King]

The advantage of being a man is that you are encouraged to be the selector and initiator. I know the world is changing, but I feel that dynamic still is the truth.

Even an extremely attractive person who stays in their own world with a lot of options still is limited to the people that come to them, if you are actually willing to extend yourself and take a risk, you can reach any person in the world. And most of the time it is encouraged for a man if you have enough to offer.

I know you want to feel loved as well, but first try to give a lot, then you can walk away.

I rather give days or years and work for a 10 inside and out, then do nothing for 100 7's with bad personalities. Now if you truly give everything and she still doesn't give anything in return, you can move on.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The advantage of being a man is that you are encouraged to be the selector and initiator. I know the world is changing, but I feel that dynamic still is the truth.

Even an extremely attractive person who stays in their own world with a lot of options still is limited to the people that come to them, if you are actually willing to extend yourself and take a risk, you can reach any person in the world. And most of the time it is encouraged for a man if you have enough to offer.

I know you want to feel loved as well, but first try to give a lot, then you can walk away.

I rather give days or years and work for a 10 inside and out, then do nothing for 100 7's with bad personalities. Now if you truly give everything and she still doesn't give anything in return, you can move on.

Ahh, no. Deal with women who choose you. They always give a cue that they like you. Don't ever try to get someone to like you or do the dancing monkey to entertain her. That will be your job.

 

[Soldier King]

I've posted dancing videos and gotten very positive responses .

I know what you are trying to say though. It's an energy that you can feel from her, choose the one you think deserves it.
But the talents you have are a blessing and you should definitely share them with a girl you like, hopefully with a joy from the action apart from her reaction.

2nd to what you said, I'm not sure you understood what I said so we might actually be agreeing but let me clarify. If you just stood in the middle of a crowded place and just looked at people's faces and waited for a girl to smile at you, I'm sure if you did it long enough and enough times you would eventually get someone to, with enough value at a higher frequency, but your choice is only the ones who make it obvious for you. Now picture that same day while you are waiting you see a pretty girl and you see her help a sad child who lost a balloon and she says don't worry it will be alright. awww sweet. But she's not even looking at you she's just on her own. You gonna just let her out of your life without even saying hi and you're single? Why? Because you needed someone to hold your hand and say come say hello to me. She already showed you she is kind, you still refuse to see if she will like you? You won't do anything to make her laugh? To make her smile?

 

[andreihaha]

Add the option "Go for attracting women that you find attractive".
It is the only way of achieving long-term success .

 

[AttackFormation]

This guy has been posting the same BS for years. As usual, hard to know whether it's a troll or someone mentally ill, and in either case the response is the same.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Add the option "Go for attracting women that you find attractive".
It is the only way of achieving long-term success .

Yea but they gotta like u. No one said that they will do all the work. But they'll let you know without wasting your time.

 

[andreihaha]

Yea but they gotta like u. No one said that they will do all the work. But they'll let you know without wasting your time.

Ohh I messed up. That's what I meant, going for attractive women that find you attractive.
2 mistakes in the same post, I need some sleep.

 

[MrWood]

[x] go for women you are attracted to and that are attracted to you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If the women you're attracted to aren't attracted to you, you're waiting your time. If none of the women attracted to you are attractive, work on becoming more attractive to more attractive women.

Umm. You will become more attractive by fvcking the ones who already like you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm glad you said this. Personally, I never f ucked a girl I wasn't attracted to, buuuut...if I'd been in a situation where none of the girls I wanted wanted me, and I didn't want any of the girls who did want me, I definitely would have leverage the girls who were already attracted to me, in order to gain access to more attractive girls.

In fact, guys should look at it like lifting weights. If you can't lift an impressive amount of weight, at first, keep lifting. Sitting and crying about how weak you are isn't gonna make you any stronger.

If you want to be the restaurant manager, but you can only get hired as a busboy, take the job and learn the business.

Thanks for noticing the "weights" analogy. Plus females are competitive. They don't look at themselves as 1-10 like guys. Female will be mad or just more interested knowing your fvcking anyone. It works. This is bro advice wisdom. "A starving man won't get fed"

 

[Visionist]

I ain't fücking no fatties. Preselection doesn't apply to fatties anyway.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That's true, too: a body in motion stays in motion; a body at rest stays at rest. It's a law of nature.

We know about droughts here and how they completely "dry" out a mans game. And we know how chasing u interested hot babes will make your outer image conguent with a desperate man.

I ain't fücking no fatties. Preselection doesn't apply to fatties anyway.

The bro science proves droughts of greater than 3 wks decreases your sexual attraction. Droughts make it nearly impossible. You better eat what you can. You should be having sex at least twice a week as a sexual and masculine male.

 

[In2theGame]

Go for Women YOU are attracted to, no doubt about it. Be proactive about it whether you think she would be attracted to you or not. There's only one way to find out and that is to approach that Woman and communicate to her that you find her attractive. Period.

If she "rejects" you, No problem. Move on.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I approach if hot and young. I only invest thereafter based on the desire for or I pull the chute. Next set.

It's not a either or. If hot for me and she's cute I pull. I prefer pickup and approach. One of the observations I see in modern men today is trying to be pretty and cowardice in not approaching. **** I pickup baeeees with parents. Gym pickup. It's a free for all.

I don't ask if she has a bf. She must seed it. I approach. I test the waters. It's fun. Genuine desire is GOAT STATUS. I don't do lmr. I next. If a girl is n/c or one word answers, I next.


Personally, I value going for it. It feels good versus a layup. I do both. I recommend both.