"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Going for her friends after a break-up with her

Is it right to get with your ex-gf's good/close friends?

  • YES

    Votes: 8 61.5%

  • NO

    Votes: 5 38.5%
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Climax

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y0...

I was just wondering what you guys thought of this...

A guy and a girl go out for a few months, then they break up, but her friends like you, and you dont mind getting with a few of them.... Now seeing these "friends" of your ex-gf are really good/close friends with your ex-gf, would it be wrong to get with her friends?

Just curious to see what you huys have to say about this:rolleyes:


Laterz...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's fine so long as you have enough money to replace your windshield. Take it from someone who's been there... 3 times.
 
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check_mate_kid_uk

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if you went out with her for a very long time and or they are very close freinds then do not do it. If its just a few months like you speak of and they are fairly good freinds its just about ok and if theres a problem its there problem more then your problem.

oh and diablo thats pretty tight of her doing that to you, imagine if you did it to her! I think you should report her to the police for criminal damage, its just not right why should she get away with smashing your windsheild its a crime and she should be punished acordingly!
 
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it depends. if it's just one and you take it long term then you should be okay

But I know a guy who broke up with a girl and made it his personal mission to F all of her friends.

In return she cleaned out his bank account.
 
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It's situation-dependent, of course. If you were with someone who turned out to be a real psycho, then maybe it wouldn't be a good idea.

It's never been a problem for me, personally, though. Once a relationship is over, the book's closed. What happens after that, with friends or acquaintances, is irrelevant to what happened before.

Then again, I've never had my windshield smashed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Juan_Man

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Technically, all of her friends are fair game after the break-up. But girls can be kind of fvcked up, so I wouldn't bother.
 
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kewlies

thanc for the replies..

diablo.. swak about the windshield man:mad: ;)

Anyways... thanx againa for the replies.. i think that if something happenes with her friends, then it will happen, f*ck my ex;)


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A friend of my X is hittin on me. But I don’t fall for it. It could be it’s just a game to her, and then tell to the X how easy I was or something like that.

Personally I’m not interested in friends of X-girlfriends, because they know too much about me (not all good stuff). And it would be impossible to start the relationship correctly with one of the friends.

In the long run, then maybe yes. But by then I’ll have some other chicks on the side.
 
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Morally, you should not concern yourself. THey are your ex's friends, not yours. If they care about her, they won't date you.
If they do date you, its not your problem.
 
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Want to get rejected?
Want to ruin your reputation?
Want lives ruined?
Want tears to fall?

Go for it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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hmmm....

Originally posted by Timo
A friend of my X is hittin on me. But I don’t fall for it. It could be it’s just a game to her, and then tell to the X how easy I was or something like that.

Personally I’m not interested in friends of X-girlfriends, because they know too much about me (not all good stuff). And it would be impossible to start the relationship correctly with one of the friends.

In the long run, then maybe yes. But by then I’ll have some other chicks on the side.
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Who said anything about a relationship?:rolleyes: And you are right about that, a relationship would not work, but thats not what i was reffering to, i was talking about just getting with them (kiss, sleep with, etc)

Luveno: nice way of putting it;)

Don Doffe: I dought that i'll get rejected by someone like Candice. My reputation with who? and how would my reputation get messed? That i am wrong to go for my ex's friends? If some other guy did that i would see him as being more of a playa than anything else. lives ruined... who? my ex's life? Well nothing stopped her from flirting and being all over MY friends, even when we were TOGEATHER, so i have NO sympathy towards her when it comes to this, she is an AW and needs to be put in her place. And tears will fall, but they wont be falling from MY eye's! And maybe i WILL go for it :cool: And Don Joffe... if u are against it, then why did u tell me yesterday that if you were in my posistion you WOULD do it just to get back at her?:rolleyes: But IF i do it i wont do it to get back at her, i'll do it because i want to, and because i can. I would also bring other reasons why (Eg: Jevan, Aviv, Anton, etc) but the others here wont know what i am talking about, but lets just leave it at the fact that she deserves NO sympathy in this case.


Laterz...
 
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