Going fishing

[Snakeinthegrass]

Met a great girl/**** buddy....she was moving things at a break neck pace....I always stayed cool...and tried to apply the principles of this board ....after four months or so of me wearing down and a few mistakes...I revealed my feelings to early and she seemed to have flaked/predictibly and she said i seemed to want to be settled....so she wanted out....... we seemed to have crashed.......not sure what happened but she didn't give me any answers, and I only asked her once......through email....and phone.....then I walked away....figuring things were just to crazy in her life for any committment....but I'm secretly still crazy about her and would like to keep her in my life as a friend/**** buddy/potential lover....

You see, if you handle this right the fish never even realizes for the most part that it is being reeled in! This is because whenever the fish shows a lot of fight and resistance, the wise fisherman gives out just enough line to reassure it that he or she is still free. The fisherman never exerts any real force or pull in an all out battle of wills, until the fish is so tired of resisting and fleeing that it doesn't really care anymore to resist.

We ****ed for 5 months....1 month has past sinced I walked away with no contact or explanation.....she has not reciprocated...but she has however mysteriously disappeared fro the gym where I work at ....and that is not like her. It leads me to believe, that I had more of an effect on her life than I thought...and it must be tough to see me.

My friend says don't even attempt to talk for at least 3 months...then I can just casually talk to her...small talk...and then work on just being a friend.....is this a good game plan?

Meanwhile, I'm dating others, but this woman definitley affected me enough to want to see her again in the future...

 

[Ace of Flames]

is this a question or a tip? a pity party maybe? im confuzzled....

well, whatever. move on dude.

 

[Snakeinthegrass]

It's a game plan, and a question.....how long? 3 months about right?

 

[Ace of Flames]

oh hey, i guess you missed it...

Originally posted by Ace of Flames
move on dude.

seriously, it sounds like this relationship is over. its beyond saving, and if it wasnt, not worth the effort. just find a new girl, its a lot easier than dealing with all the crap you're in for.

 

[Snakeinthegrass]

I'm movin' on...so just scratch her off forever...??? C'mon, I know we both have some issues, but DAMN...no relationship is perect, and neither are people...sometime if the time is right I want to be ready, IF she is wanting to have fun again with me I want to be ready...how long is to long...???sometimes everyone needs emotional space, guys and girls, right? I've needed it before and it wasn't cuz I didn't have the hots for a girl....it just gives it some more uuummmphhh...so to speak ... puts more excitement in the relationship...especially if timing is key...right or wrong?