"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If I can predict the future, I will sit there drinking beer after beer not talking to anyone until I start getting angry (but not super angry) and might end up smoking some cigarettes despite the fact that I know they can kill you. And perhaps all the people around me will look like idiots lip synching the words to stupid hip-hop songs.

I'll keep you posted! But I am dressed nice. Maybe that will help something.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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instead of being the weird guy by himself in the corner, why dont you sit at the bar and talk to the bar tenders if they arent too busy. better yet talk to the person next to you.

"cheer"
"so hows your night going?"

maybe even let yourself become one of those idiots singing along to those stupid hip hop songs?
I was gonna sit at the bar
 
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Is there any sophisticated way to drink alcohol? I probably should just not drink. It would make me stand out in a good way to be social while drinking water or juice.

But if I am going to drink... Anything better than cheap beer? Several months ago, I started ordering vodka martinis, but that got old.
 

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Is there any sophisticated way to drink alcohol? I probably should just not drink. It would make me stand out in a good way to be social while drinking water or juice.

But if I am going to drink... Anything better than cheap beer? Several months ago, I started ordering vodka martinis, but that got old.
Single malts
 

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Is there any sophisticated way to drink alcohol? I probably should just not drink. It would make me stand out in a good way to be social while drinking water or juice.

But if I am going to drink... Anything better than cheap beer? Several months ago, I started ordering vodka martinis, but that got old.
No. You will be that weirdo at the bar not drinking.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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well at least your putting yourself out there.

my question is what exactly are you looking for richie
 

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Do you approach any women at the bar? Next time why not invite one of the contractors you work with?
 

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Get some God damn friends.

I'm going out tonight too.. but I'm going with an entourage.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Okay here's my night all said and done. I'm home after finding an Uber home.

Nobody is doing what I'm trying,to do.
Need to push.
Their personal life isn't as glamorous as their bartending, stripper life.
How to properly introduce self? Red pill aside, that's a huge step. Something as simple as showing them you remember their name. Didn't believe I would get passport.
I look like I've possibly been to prison.
Through all the smoke and mirrors, it's normal guys with the girls. Not ex cons or thugs.
Easy introduction, what's your name? I think their instincts would tell them to run.
If a girl was DTF, I probably wouldn't notice.
I can't introduce myself without raising red flags.
I should start going to the university bars. I'm tresspassed from campus.
Good call taking a shower.
Only guy not talking to anyone, but I don't see that as a weakness. I don't need other people. House flipping by self. I'm above the weak, pointless socialization.
I'm kind of antisocial and sadistic.
All it would take is to start a small conversation for them to see I was extremely intelligent and worth a lot.
Even the hottest girls there are talking about school. I'm way past that in life.
Other guys talk to them about sex, sometimes aggressively.. I don't Need them cause of hookers.
Detail my dress game, shoes.
I've seen a rich lawyer play with college kids. Can I?
Even throigh the drunk haze, I'm worth more than their boyfriend. Flip houses by myself? That's ridiculous value.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Okay here's my night all said and done. I'm home after finding an Uber home.

Nobody is doing what I'm trying,to do.
Need to push.
Their personal life isn't as glamorous as their bartending, stripper life.
How to properly introduce self? Red pill aside, that's a huge step. Something as simple as showing them you remember their name. Didn't believe I would get passport.
I look like I've possibly been to prison.
Through all the smoke and mirrors, it's normal guys with the girls. Not ex cons or thugs.
Easy introduction, what's your name? I think their instincts would tell them to run.
If a girl was DTF, I probably wouldn't notice.
I can't introduce myself without raising red flags.
I should start going to the university bars. I'm tresspassed from campus.
Good call taking a shower.
Only guy not talking to anyone, but I don't see that as a weakness. I don't need other people. House flipping by self. I'm above the weak, pointless socialization.
I'm kind of antisocial and sadistic.
All it would take is to start a small conversation for them to see I was extremely intelligent and worth a lot.
Even the hottest girls there are talking about school. I'm way past that in life.
Other guys talk to them about sex, sometimes aggressively.. I don't Need them cause of hookers.
Detail my dress game, shoes.
I've seen a rich lawyer play with college kids. Can I?
Even throigh the drunk haze, I'm worth more than their boyfriend. Flip houses by myself? That's ridiculous value.
Don't drunk and post. On here at least.
 

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@RichardTheFrog you need to begin by believing in yourself wholly. Until you know that you are a worthy and valuable human being, it's going to be difficult and or frustrating to seek what you are looking for. I said seek, not find, because it appears you get in your way before you even try to look
 
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@RichardTheFrog you need to begin by believing in yourself wholly. Until you know that you are a worthy and valuable human being, it's going to be difficult and or frustrating to seek what you are looking for. I said seek, not find, because it appears you get in your way before you even try to look
I already know that I'm valuable. It's the girls that don't see it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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