Going Clubbing Tonite

[green69]

Ok so my oneitis (we're currently friends rite now) invited me out clubbing tonite with some people - mostly girls. I am friends with/know most of them - especially this girls best friend. We have admitted a month or so ago that we had feelings for each other...but we got into some arguments and things just weren't taking off. I got the impression she had to choose she would remain friends as opposed to pursuing a relationship.

So my question is how do I play this? Do I just go for it, or try to make her jealous by dancing with her friends or other girls in the club? I know this girl is attracted to me, and 'apparently' she likes me but it is also very complicated. I will also say that I am very nervous, because last time we went clubbing (didn't have feelings for her at the time) she hooked up with some other guy and it was very hard to watch. That's what made me realize I wanted her.

 

[cyp6]

dance with every one... and if she wants to dance do it. but let her ask you first..

 

[Borgon]

^ like he said... I would suggest u go there with a little buzz if you have to (i dont recommend doing this all the time) but it helps. DO NOT CLING, I REPEAT DO NOT cling or be around them 24/7. They will be in a little group dancing etc, you just walk around the club. Grab a gurls hand, give her a confident twirl and make good eye contact with a smile and start dancing with her. Just go there have fun, walk around the club like if you are the manager or a bouncer of the club. Over looking everyone etc. Have confident body language and smile, enjoy yourself.

 

[green69]

Ok well things weren't terrible, but not great either. She didn't hook up with any guys thankfully. I did what you guys suggested, and didn't cling to her at all. As things were whinding down at the first club, she sat down next to me and started nibbling on my ear...and we kissed a little bit and what not. Unfortunately, our co-workers were right across the table watching us and I got the impression she was avoiding actually making out.

Next club we went to, again she was clinging on to me and she started kissing my neck pretty hard and we kissed on the lips a couple times again. This time our co-workers were a little further away this time...not like across the club but we atleast had some space between them and us. But finally I went in for a real kiss, since really what we were doing up until then was just BS casual kissing...and when I moved in she moved her head back. Not good.

I called her the next day asking what was up...cuz she was kissing my neck and all that and then when i went for a real kiss she backed away. She said that she thought they were watching us and she doesn't like doing that stuff in public (even tho she had problem making out with some random guy in front of us last time we went clubbing. i guess because everyone in the group knows each other suddenly she doesn't want to make out with me in front of them? ya right...) . I agreed with her that at the first club, I could feel their eyes like they were watching - but i mentioned how the second club they were further away and not paying much attention (if any) to us - which is when i made a real move anyway. She responded by saying it was kind of all a blurr because she was really drunk (and she was). Sounds like an excuse, i think if she was interested and wanted me she would've kissed me right there - who cares if everyone is watching (and i don't think they were even paying much attention to us at the 2nd club).

You guys think she is just teasing me/I am being played? I think i should just start no contact.

 

[md3sign]

I could be way off here, but maybe she was just hangin on you to keep you from dancing with other girls? Basically doing only what was necessary to keep you there. And she could just be showing off for her friends like "hey look I got him by the rope".

You're not BF/GF, you said yourself you're just friends and if she invites you to a club go dance with all the girls you want! Why else are you there? Not like it's a great 1on1 place to be anyway. Perfect opportunity to play the jealousy card, AND you get to have fun while at it.

 

[Cod3r]

You called her and asked her why she didn't kiss you ??

Are you serious ?? Tell me you're not ???

Then she gave you a reason and you brought up the second club ??


Ughhh ur whining like a little beitch bro, take your manhood back my gawd. Who cares if she didn't kiss you, she missed out, don't ask for reasons. Fvck that girl and go fvck some other girl, seriously u guys gotta stop this kinda stuff.


-Cod3r