Going after girls with BFs - again

[becker]

I just love this topic, and to me, it hits home because I always find myself in this mess.

People are so paranoid about this. For some reason, I think it's kind of fun to do this, and I don't really look at it as something that might be detrimental to me. It's like a game to me. To those of you out there who are putting up these reasons like "don't waste your time when you can find girls without BFs", I say it's easier just to find a girl you like, and as long as she isn't married, just go for it as long as she shows interest. I find it's pretty good practice with no strings attached. You come off as more independent too, because you don't give a crap and go after what you want. Sometimes you'll get girls who will dump their BFs for you, sometimes you won't, but who cares, at least I'm doing whatever I want, right? Just don't get too attached, that's the key.

 

[Hugh G. Rection]

I once had her BF chasing after me (not in THAT way ) because i was about to kiss her. The stupid ***** did not even tell me she had a BF. Why do women do that, never mentioning the boyfriend and such? He might have beaten me up if I hadn't been a fast runner...
Ever since, I want to find out if a girl has a BF first.

 

[John11276]

When you meet a girl that has a boyfriend, how long do you wait to start the chase. I would guess very non high priority right? Like just call one weekend night before you are about to go out with your friends and try to subltly invite her to stop by. Right or wrong?

 

[BGMan]

Originally posted by Hugh G. Rection
I once had her BF chasing after me (not in THAT way ) because i was about to kiss her. The stupid ***** did not even tell me she had a BF. Why do women do that, never mentioning the boyfriend and such? He might have beaten me up if I hadn't been a fast runner...
Ever since, I want to find out if a girl has a BF first.

It sounds like the dumb broad was getting a charge out of getting her BF jealous, and boy, it sure worked!

If a girl with a BF really wants you, she'll try to make DAMN sure that the BF isn't anywhere around if you get down to business. Oftentimes, she'll actually chase you -- because she knows that most guys are reluctant to even touch a girl with a BF.

Many chicks will even have a "second-best option" boyfriend. By this I mean "the guy they will settle for if they fail to get their crush" -- the crush being a totally different guy. If any of you have seen the classic old movie It's a Wonderful Life, this is an example of that. They don't worry about breaking the "second-best" boyfriend's heart because they usually pick a guy who they figure could get a replacement girlfriend easily enough.

BGMan

 

[becker]

Normally what happens (way too often) to me is that I meet a girl, we get along well, good chemistry, and I learn later that she has a BF when I invite her out. Usually when I find out, I don't even change my behavior much and just keep moving forward as though I didn't hear that she had a BF, with the only exception being that I will not invite her to do stuff that is too romantically suggestive, and instead invite her to do fun stuff that friends will do with each other.

The main thing is doing stuff with her that she might even do with her BF, but she's doing it with you only, and not the BF. For example, go shopping with her, during which you act as though you're there with a buddy, but make sure it's a great time you have together. Leaves good thoughts in her head. It takes time for any feelings to develop in my opinion since she's involved with the other guy. Once you have her "confused", you're almost money. The first step is to make sure she never rejects you or gives you blatant rejections. She may reject you to begin with, but be persistant if you can feel she is interested.

Then, ask her to do stuff, and see if she says "NO, I don't want to do anything", or if she says "I can't, but..." or "I don't know". When you have her saying "I don't know" to certain questions such as "Does this mean you don't want to go hang out with me?". I like to put her somewhat on the spot, because if a girl truly isn't interested in you, she will usually take advantage of the opening and just reject you to avoid later hassle. I give her plenty of openings to reject me flat out and see if she takes them. I make it clear to her that she can just flat out turn me down if she wants. That way, you don't have to waste your time. So far, I have not had any women reject me flat out, and they usually end up finding a way to do something with me. Like I said before, it's fun, and I don't back down just because of a BF, but at the same time, I don't cross the line if she's still involved. The key is getting her to break up with the BF for you, because you want her to be with you, so you're going out to get her.