Well... I'm in the stage right now trying to improve my social proof. I don't have many solid homies cept a few in my neighborhood.
One of my really good female friends (that I used to have onenitis but now I can barely stand her) is having her birthday party in 2hrs. Well it's really a dinner at Red Lobster. Then maybe a movie after.
The thing is, she told me to bring my gf (yea this girl is weird on the real. I think she's trying to make it seem like she's cool with my gf). I asked "well are there going to be alot of girls there, I'll talk to them"(that'd be perfect). But she says that there are gonna be alot of guys and prolly 3 girls but they have BFs. (SO?). Anyways, I tell her my GF ain't comin (she's busy anyway). Why would I bring her?'
So now I'm going alone. I don't know any of her friends (she goes to a different school). So I'm wondering, how do I be someone that they will be like "hey your friend's cool, we should hang wit him more"? I mean, should I just be off the wall, trying to be the center of attention? Should I talk alot so everyone notices me? Or should I just try to join in a little bit of conversation?
I really don't want to be quiet anymore, but I don't know exactly what to do. Especially if they start talking about people at their school that I don't know. Yeah, I suck at making male friends. Especially if they all whylin out, how am I gonna jump in? I'm going to look like an idiot tryin to be hype with them when I don't even know them and they don't know me?
How should my attitude be? These aren't typcial nice guys, they prolly aren't AFC at all. So saying 'hi my name is ryan whats urs?' would be kinda weird.
One of my really good female friends (that I used to have onenitis but now I can barely stand her) is having her birthday party in 2hrs. Well it's really a dinner at Red Lobster. Then maybe a movie after.
The thing is, she told me to bring my gf (yea this girl is weird on the real. I think she's trying to make it seem like she's cool with my gf). I asked "well are there going to be alot of girls there, I'll talk to them"(that'd be perfect). But she says that there are gonna be alot of guys and prolly 3 girls but they have BFs. (SO?). Anyways, I tell her my GF ain't comin (she's busy anyway). Why would I bring her?'
So now I'm going alone. I don't know any of her friends (she goes to a different school). So I'm wondering, how do I be someone that they will be like "hey your friend's cool, we should hang wit him more"? I mean, should I just be off the wall, trying to be the center of attention? Should I talk alot so everyone notices me? Or should I just try to join in a little bit of conversation?
I really don't want to be quiet anymore, but I don't know exactly what to do. Especially if they start talking about people at their school that I don't know. Yeah, I suck at making male friends. Especially if they all whylin out, how am I gonna jump in? I'm going to look like an idiot tryin to be hype with them when I don't even know them and they don't know me?
How should my attitude be? These aren't typcial nice guys, they prolly aren't AFC at all. So saying 'hi my name is ryan whats urs?' would be kinda weird.