godlike Don Juan needed...LTR

[donjghk]

Hi,

I'm a 32 years old guy
girlfriend 28
in a 12+ relationship
we have a kid of 6 years.

Currently I'm a guy.. average skill level.
We lose ourselves as a couple in family life.
raising children,
household
work
....

I want to become passionate again,
recovering love,intimacy, passion, sex
rediscover the reasons why we've started a relationship in the first place

I want to become a real Don Juan in my LTR
With style, with respect, become a real man (again)

So I need some godlike Don Juan here,
please advice!
Kind regards

 

[Desdinova]

I'm hoping you're wanting to make a stagnant relationship better as opposed to saving a failing one. If your relationship is just stagnant, you have hope.

You need to induce emotional fluctuation into your GF. Flirt with her. Tease her. Tell her how sexy she looks when you're out grocery shopping and then bite her neck. Basically, treat her like you're dating her. You should also take her out on child-free dates. Mini golf, bowling, skating, whatever. Just don't make it dinner and a movie. Go do stuff with her.

 

[Tictac]

There are no 'god-like' don Juans, here or anywhere else but fiction books, bad movies and people pretending so that can sell you stuff.

Read here, the DJ Bible at least and adapt what you read to your situation.

Ask questions here. But recognize that there is a breadth of POV here that will only in part mean much in your situation.

Most importantly, take action.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Check out this book. He also has a website.

http://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-L...0IRQ8/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8&tag=viglink21103-20

-Augustus-

 

[Vulpine]

Epimanes... Paging DJ Epimanes...


Edit: Oops... Augustus_McCrae just snuck his post in. Yes, that book.

 

[MOTU]

Check out this book. He also has a website.

http://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-L...0IRQ8/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8&tag=viglink21103-20

-Augustus-

^^^^This^^^^

There are free copies floating around, but pay for one. It's only $10 and the guy is trying to make a living.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Man that hurt... Being compared to Mr "I love marriage, right or wrong, to hell with reality!"

LOL

-Augustus-

 

[BetterCallSaul]

As one of the few married men who post on this board, the one thing I'm glad I did learn a few years ago is that you can't make any LTR or marriage about the kids. That's simply truth and anyone who tells you otherwise, you know how people who hate each other stay together for the kids?, is just lying or repeating some psychobabble bulls#it.

It has to be about the two of you because at some point in the future, one of you will try to move on by trying to recapture your sexuality with someone else or the kid(s) will grow up and move out and you find there's nothing left.

Don't ever waste your life like that.

 

[donjghk]

Hello guys!

Thanks for pointing this out for me!
I'm gonna read The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 asap

My relationship is somehow stagnant but definitely not failing.
Thats why I'm here.

Desdinova,
thanks for the ideas!
I'm going to do something with them.
The way/road to passion / commitment / seduce goes first through the mind then through the body.

If I want to make my relationship better. I need to start working on myself
That is taking responsibility!

But really change myself, in the core, is extremely difficult.
this is a real big challenge that I must enter into.

But where do I start? There is much work to do.

 

[Vulpine]

Man that hurt...

Aww... no, no, bru, nothing like that. I was hoping he would come in and offer the book; the same one you suggested.

 

[sodbuster]

Start working out, dressing better, etc. Let her SEE other women want you.... they are in competition with OTHER women ALL the time..... even if they think they have you locked down

 

[VikingKing]

Start working out, dressing better, etc. Let her SEE other women want you.... they are in competition with OTHER women ALL the time..... even if they think they have you locked down

:yes:

 

[Tenacity]

What the hell is a God-like Don Juan?

 

[sharkbeat]

A Don Juan that looks like a God, you know long white beard with white robe and stuff.

 

[mangotot]

Get your wife some $exy lingerie. That will give her some hints.

 

[Epimanes]

Man that hurt... Being compared to Mr "I love marriage, right or wrong, to hell with reality!"

LOL

-Augustus-

LOL I just seen this. Its ok Augustus marriage is not that bad if you find the right match.... Married man sex life is fantastic and helps you improve your life for you and along the way your woman will really notice.. I fvckin love it. Very motivating.

Epi

 

[Fireballs]

Get your wife some $exy lingerie. That will give her some hints.

I don't think it's a good idea to buy your girl lingerie. She will feel obligated to wear it for you instead of desiring to/buying it herself. Big difference.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I don't think it's a good idea to buy your girl lingerie. She will feel obligated to wear it for you instead of desiring to/buying it herself. Big difference.

Interesting.... Never considered this.