Originally posted by killerasp
OKay...ive been working on my C&F alot lately and i think i got to the point where its actually working like everyone else says.
I managed to really put on the C&F with this girl and i got a date for this saturday. The conversation went from "what she did today" to the things she wants to do with whip cream and chocolate. She put things as if she wants to get the bejesus railed out of her. Im not sure what she wants from this, LTR, ONS but whatever it is, IM SCARED TO DEATH.
I cannot be more serious about this, but im scared to what can happen. Yes, i want to get laid, but im treading on land that i NEVER NEVER walked on. I am both happy and scared at the same time..
WHAT TO DO?!?!?!?!?
I have been in the same exact situation before. I had this girl, from simple laughs to consistent laughs with my C&F which only grew stronger as I moved along. Sexual innunendo was mixed in freely. Mostly I did neg-hits, but she kept laughing. Baffled at my success, and scared at what I might have created in this girl, I pulled away almost immediately. You know what happend?
Yup, you guessed right. She became even more obsessed and starting begging me for more attention. Now at this point I was REALLY, but I mean REALLY scared!!! I thought I had just created a stalker!!! I'm serious too, as she jokingly said she had followed me home, which was a lie of course.
I thought about it long and hard. If I pulled away, she'd come running back to me, if I pushed like i had been doing, she'd become even more attached. What to do?
Well I chose the middle approach. I started conversing with her normally, no C&F, no pull-aways just simple friendly talk. And you know what? It worked. It cooled off the fire and made everything more manageable for me. Now we are good friends, mostly because of her body (hint: she was fat), because if she was anything else at all, I would have gone for the kiss and closed it off with a nice make out session.
By the way, she still lingers over me and pulls all kinds of stuff on me, while all I get is good training at C&F and maintaining control. So what you need to do is cool it off just a bit, not too much to maker her chase you, unless your fear disappears.
After a while, you gain control and can steer this thing anyway you please, but first you need to try some things. You can try my approach, just to see what happens. Pull away completely, and if she comes running back to you, you've got it. Then you suddenly are normal and you let her get used to this for a while and then pull C&F again until you get comfortable with this territory.
