god damn girls get on my nerves

[Sexorcist]

What's up guys

I'm sure alot of you guys can relate to this thread. Just last week I made a post about this girl that I work who I've been trying to get with. I couldn't stop thinking about her and even went in to visit her a couple times. She was flirting with me frequently (touching, staring, playing) I got as far as kino and making her laugh and what not and I knew for sure that she was into me. So I didn't see her for about 5 days and the whole time I was hyped about working with her again. So finally yesterday morning I got to work with her... I was expecting our relationship to shoot up, and maybe even get laid or make out with her... but all of my expectations turned to sh*t as soon as I got to work. The whole day she was acting like a ***** and trying to like proof herself from me. I don't see how you can go from affection to just retarded *****iness. Is this natural when trying to mack or is it just a personality issue or what?

So basically I met her, I practiced my game on her, she liked me, flirted, then out of nowhere just hated me.

I really liked the girl too i'm not gonna lie...

 

[DJsparky]

Bro, today i had a date, im high up in my game right now but this girl was clearly not interested, is it a big deal? no? why? because you are the one who's the prize, she's the one who missed out on the greatest time of her life, you should be laughing at this girl for losing that ability to be with you

 

[Sexorcist]

lol, that's a tight perspective........... also I forgot to mention she was giving me one word responses to questions, fake laughs, and just not even talking to me or looking at me the whole day. I donno I think a factor could have been that it was really busy and the managers and advisers were working today.

 

[DJsparky]

Analyse waht you thought you did wrong, if you cant find anything you did wrong, then you didnt and she was flaking, also which means she isnt worth the hassle, theres plenty of girls out there who would give you a better conversationt hen she ever could, sarge on ... that is all

 

[Sexorcist]

yeah the first day I met her which was last week, she was seriously into me and we had carried on like five consecutive 15 minute conversations... but that was when it was just us two working.... thats true it could have been my fault too... Maybe she thought I was getting on her nerves I donno... that's how the other chicks at work are too, they conversate more when the managers and advisers aren't there and its less busy. But ultimately, what I might have done wrong was not being consistent... I asked her why she was so quiet after a couple attempts to make her laugh, and she replied with "i'm just tired" and from there I just quit and stopped working my game.

 

[DJsparky]

think of her as a social expierment, you used her to improve on your game, she wasnt important, because all she was used for was to improve your game, now take what uve learnt then and decide if you wanna improve then if you want to improve, adapt, good luck man

 

[hi2u]

Girls are REALLY fickle. One day they will act all into you and the next they won't give a sh!t about you. Don't take this as a stab to your ego. Don't concentrate too hard on her, but go out to the mall / book store / bar / whatever you prefer and talk to some other girls. Even if you don't get a #-close, you will get a nice shot of confidence and it'll make it easier to forget about her.

This last week I had to next a girl for not following through on her plans with me, twice. I just sent her a simple text message:

"Hey, I was really looking forward to seeing you tonight, but please don't make plans in the future if you aren't going to follow thru with them."

Her response: "Wow... I wasn't expecting that"

This polarized her. Either she was going to say she was sorry and not make the mistake again, or she was going to stop wasting my time. I don't really care anymore about her. I have other girls to talk to and I'm always meeting new people so it doesn't effect me. If she was really interested she wouldn't waste my time and treat me with such little respect.

Point: Having options is possibly the most powerful thing that the DJ has in his arsenal.

 

[Sexorcist]

true, all the anticipation and thinking about her made me nervous.... but how do you go about getting the one girl that you want? I mean usually if i'm making an attempt to get with a girl and she turns me down I'll get over it, but I'm really aiming at going out with her.

 

[hi2u]

I am in the same boat as you. I am VERY interested in this group girl that I consider a "group girl" because she hangs out with my group of friends. I keep the kino, neg hits, push/pull going every time I see her. She gives me EC / smiles constantly, reciprocates kino, tells me secrets like we've been together forever, etc. She has hang ups that require some more time / work to get her to open up and be intimate. You just have to keep yourself as alpha/sexual being otherwise you'll fall into LJBF zone. I would next her if I didn't think she was probably one of the coolest girls I've ever met. It's really hard to say next to someone you have an instant connection with.

Some days she will act indifferent towards you, other days she will be sitting ontop of you, you will be flirting, having a great time. Don't let once incident of *****yness get you off track. If she never opens back up, prepare yourself to next, but like I said, OPTIONS are key. The thing that keeps me confident and stable talking to this one girl is when I'm talking to other girls and keeping my options open. It sounds insane, but it works. It keeps your emotions totally at bay and you become a controlled person. Girls pick up on a guy with options like they have some kind of super strength detection equipment.