Goal: Getting a Date

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//Intro

I have to do this. I've found that when I share my goals with others or an audience, I feel more obligated to follow through with them.

My goal is to get some dates, and to get a girlfriend - soon. I've been single for a really long time, and honestly, I've lately avoided it with the excuse of being too busy.

But it is an excuse, and I've realized I have to start taking action before my fears take over my life.

Namely, the fear of rejection has me frozen. I get hit on quite often by cute girls, but I'm not doing anything about it. I talk to girls, but not much to those that are attracted to me, and I'm particularly afraid of showing interest.

It's pathetic because they are actually the ones who are nervous around me, but I find myself brushing them off or just ignoring their blatant come-ons. It's a temporary ego boost and something I do mostly out of habit/comfort-zone, and I usually end up regretting it later. The prettier the girl, the more I regret it later.

There's no lack of opportunity, just a lack of action on my part.

//This Goal Journal

I'll be doing most of my approaches in a school environment or around bookstores and outdoor shopping areas. And of course, I'll be mainly approaching girls who show signs of interest. I will try to initiate more conversations with women though, in general.

For the most part, I'll keep the details brief. My point is to to take action, and not overanalyze every single detail that occurs, as that would be counterproductive.

A little about myself...

I'm skinny, average height, and confident...but my confidence is a bit shot with women at this point. I am social in some settings, but I need to be more outgoing than I am at this point; I used to be a lot more social. The last time I started talking to a girl because I felt like it was about 2 weeks ago. That's why I'm sharing my goal here.

I live with parents, but they are not only cool with me bringing girls over - they encourage it. I also go out and about often, but not really much into the night scene. During the day I am almost always out doing something - though usually it is a sedantary activity like reading, studying, or just relaxing/eating.

So, the goal...

Is to get with some hot girls. I want some dates and hopefully a relationship. Actually, I want to be seeing 3-4 girls at one time. I don't want ONS...I want the cuddly buddy type of girls who will stick around.

Any suggestions are welcome. I'll update as soon as I make progress.

 

[badgm's57]

you'll be alright ,just don't look for the kind bars and clubs.[sluts]

not unless you're looking for the knid to f;;k for the night
anyway sex is not a game ,for some tom****ing guys they say it is ,but no it's not:nono:[ i have moral code i go by]

keep up the good work hope you find what your're looking for.

 

[knygirl]

to be honest.. guys~! dont be afraid of rejection. be confident.
there are tons of ladies.. .. just be genuine.. then you will get a girl of your dream

 

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Okay, well I got a # today from a girl at a study lounge. It seems like she was staring at me a lot. I got her # on the basis of a class-related matter.

When we talked she seemed nervous, and she wouldn't stop talking.

If it leads anywhere I'll be sure to post progress. Regardless of whatever outcome, it felt good to "just do it," and to somewhat briefly get to know a girl I don't know.

 

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Another update...

I've decided the absolute best way to get rid of my anxieties and nervousness, and just plain shake off the rust of not being in the game for so long...is to do some damn approaches.

So, for this week of October 16, my goal is to do 10 approaches (by Friday, October 20).

I will only approach girls that show signs of interest, which I get plenty of opportunities for anyway. The point is to really get over my fear/anxiety/nervousness. I seem to be even more nervous when I know the chick is digging me, because it makes me feel pressured somewhat. But I think if I get through enough situations like it, that I'll eventually be smooth sailing.

10/16/06

I talked to some chick that had tried bumping into me, and I'd noticed checking me out plenty of times in the past few days. I just happened to run into her at a lounge. I just said "hey I saw you at the cafeteria the other day" and started talking to her. The convo was pretty much about school and studying stuff. She kept licking her lips when we talked, like she had barbeque sauce on them or something...of course, I know she's interested. It ended when her friends showed up and started talking to her. I didn't bother getting her name or anything. It felt great taking a 'risk' though.

Later, after school, I went shopping for a little bit. I was buying some cologne and made lots of eye contact with the lady selling it to me. After that moment of holding our gaze, she started getting nervous and flirty it seemed. I could sense it in her voice. She ended up giving me a bunch of freebies. I should have asked her name/number on that one, though I saw a ring on her finger and assumed she's married or something. Although, she was definitely maintaining extended eye-contact, which made me feel like she was interested. Anyway, I felt really good just doing my thing and being smooth.

Approaches: 1

 

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10/17

I did 2 more 'approaches' today. These girls weren't giving me any signals though I just started talking because I felt like it. Both conversations were very brief, like 1 minute at most. On the first one, the girl seemed open and I should have continued talking to her...but I stopped because she said something I didn't understand and I started to feel nervous.

The second girl was later in the day, and she actually seemed really nervous and blushed. She put her hands in her pockets and crossed her legs. I took it she didn't want to be bothered, so I stopped talking to her.

It felt okay to be talking to more people, but I still don't feel great. I need to let loose and have more fun...

Approaches: 3