go to the club?

[kevin18]

Hi,

After reading the dj bible and listen to the 6 videos of David D I change my vision of life.
But even there I need some advice. I met a girl at school and I didn’t pay attention to her but she is maybe interested (she asked me questions, some body language etc..) Finally one time she asked me if I am going out in the clubs …I said yeah… and she asked me where, I said everywhere. She answer that she is going to this club in few days. I said like ok cool. I am not sure but is she trying to tell me that she want’s me to go with her? I am wondering if I should ask her # and say do you want to go together. (But It looks like a seek of approval..) Or go to this club with a friend and meet her there if I find her..) I really need some club advice here.

tx

 

[score]

Hi Kevin,

Welcome to the board. Ah yes the wonderful world of male/female communication. Women are masters at being indirect. Ok lets take this step by step. First, you seem to think that she is interested, lets go with that. Here's one version of what happened and see if I can translate.

Her: "What clubs do you go to?"
Translation: She might be fishing for info as to where you are so SHE can show up and see you.

When you said 'everywhere' it kinda threw her off. So she says to herself as a backup "Okay, well I'll tell him I'm going to so and so club and see if he'll take the bait".

You then respond to said query with "OK cool"... Doh! That my friend was an invitation from her. You may be thinking well why the heck didn't she just ask me out straightforward. (Let me just pick myself up from laughing on the floor). Ain't going to happen, women = indirect.

What can we learn from this interchange? Well you saying "everywhere" when asked where you went clubbing is actually pretty good, you are the man about town. (Or you at least want to appear to be). You can improve on that by adding in next time the situation comes up "Everywhere, but I've been meaning to go to club Rumor next Thursday, I haven't been there in ages".

That is a test, you have opened the door, it is the same kind of test she gave you. Now YOU can see if she picks up on your invitation and what her real interest might be. Now you are being indirect, but guess what, now you are speaking like a woman and she WILL understand you.

Oh and you're right when you say "do you want to go together?" as a sign of seeking approval. Just TELL her you are going. Then as an afterthought "Hey wanna come? Cause there ain't anyplace that's gonna be more fun, why? You ask? Obviously cause I'M going to be there".
Get the tone of the interchange?

And dammit get her number already, you have to coordinate where/when you're going to meet aren't you?

 

[kevin18]

ok

wow score your have it... Your Translation is perfect. Now let's forward. I will see here again and my plan is:

version1

Me :Hey what sup
Her : Hey

Me: you know what, it is possible that I pass by the x club tonight and I'll be near the big tree at 2h.

(I am planning to go to the club with a friend don’t want to go there alone )

Her: ??? ok

Version2

Me: I'm going to the club we could exchange numbers and meet there.

Her: ok

I am confused, should I meet her there or go there with her? With a friend or alone? If my friend Is there and she leaves me I have a backup but if I am alone I will look like a big looser.
maybe mix that together or a version 3.

Finally should I leave the club with her??I don't know if I will have my car.

I will apreciat some dj advice

tx alot

 

[BackToTheMack]

go with a friend and meet her there. Make sure your friend is ok with going home alone.

 

[kevin18]

ok

Do I have to take her home her parents are there...

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

say this to her

let's meet up at the club on saturday(whatever day).. im going to be going there with a few of my friends. we can all hang out.

 

[kevin18]

****

I said to this chix that I will pass by.

Oh s*it. I went play pool yesterday just before the club. There was a fight and my friend got arrested... It was to late to go so I decied to go home..


Now what the f*** I am going to say to her.

Should I say I was there and I didnt see here. Next time we sould meet somewhere...or I could pick you up.

Or just say I didnt go but I will next friday.