Go to the club with her or pass?

[the_stig]

Saturday this girl, my #1 plate, wants me to go to a fairly wild bar/club downtown with her. The problem is, I really REALLY cannot dance and that's the reason her and her friends are going. The club scene isn't my thing and I don't put my best foot forward in them. My gut says I'd make a fool of myself dancing, or standing there watching her dance with random dudes. Then I second guess myself and think it might be ok after a few drinks, and her grinding on me instead. Most of my friends are busy and only one or two could make it for me to socialize with. It's her only weekend off in March and she wanted to see me both days (high IL), we're already hanging out alone Friday. Would it be in my best interest to just make other plans, or somehow arrange to meet her around bar closing then go back to her place? Your thoughts?

 

[Tiguere]

if it was ya 2 alone i would say to go...but since this girl is not even your girlfriend and she is going with her other females friends i just dont think you should go. at least i wouldnt.

key question:
how you banged her yet? if yes do what you want ...if NO stay home if you have to.

 

[foomee]

Do something with your friends. Invite her to come hang out with you after the club. Say, hey you should come by after the club and party it up with me. Or if you really want to go you could ask to bring your guy friends. But if it's just you and her girlfriends, don't do it.

 

[Strelok]

As the guys above said,it's not exactly a great idea to go with her and her friends in a club especially if that's not your environment and you cant dance.

The reasons are many:

1) you're gonna be by yourself and don't even expect her to stay all the time with you,she's gonna stay close and dance with her friends and in that moment you'll face difficulties,even more being you unable to dance.

2)I don't know her friends but if they are the average modern girl,it's damn sure they'll find some guy to dance with and boost their ego,they'll for sure find a guy who can dance with her or some friend of those guys will join himself ang get the only "lone" girl.
Imagine what pleasure could be to stay in a corner watching them having fun
while you're outside with your tale between your legs,the best thing you can do is go to the bar and pretend you're having fun with a drink.

3)after those 2 possible scenarios what do you think you can get? her friends questioning your value with her or her finding some cool guy who got her friends approval after the comparing.

You can save the situation if you manage to bring some of your friends who know how to move in that environment if not, listen at Foomee and invite her for an after party.

 

[WhitePimp]

Don't do it. Her friends will c0ckblock you, and as you said, you're uncomfortable in clubs so it will become apparent the second you walk in how awkward you are.

I'd say to make sure you're on your game Friday when you both are alone, and let her wonder about your activities without her Saturday night.

 

[PokerStar]

I say go.
who knows you could meet other girls as well.
if you are not feeling it, in the club, leave.

 

[Blusher]

For God's sake, go out and a a great time. Who cares if you're not a great dancer, most guys are not yet have fun in clubs.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

F*Ck this plate. Either you want to go to this club or you don't. If you don't feel comfortable going to the club then why go?? To impress her??? Let me tell you something. You don't owe this girl sh*t. She should be the one trying to impress you.