"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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go to her workplace?

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hi im 17 and i was making really good rapport with this 21 year old girl on the tube whilst i was on my way to notting hill carnival. however i failed to get her number because her stop was there just as i asked.

she did tell me where she works and everything and gave me that flirty "maybe i'll see you again" comment.

she works in ann summers.... i've already been asking for her but one of the staff said she already left. s

hould i go again another time? or will that seem like im desperate?

ooooor should i leave a business card and see if she calls?

ooooor should i be stalkerish and wait hide outside the shop until she finishes work:woo:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You should put it on the backburner and game other women. It seems a tad desperate and stalkerish for a woman you met once.
 
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Did she invite you there? Just because I tell people where I work does not mean I want them showing up there.
 
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If she says I work at that restaurant or a bar, the proper way is to go there, sit and order. If she approaches, you're golden. Asking for her specifically is a no no.

It also looks like you've been waiting for an opportunity to ask her number. Waiting for an opportunity gets you nowhere. Universe helps those who help them selfs. Thus stop waiting for opportunities and create them for yourself. Always number close her, or more precisely, e-mail and number. (unless she's very old or very poor)

No, she's not interested in you. You're clingy.
 
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take another HB out to her job...

Then she will start going to your job :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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was she about 5ft8, and her hair was kinda an off blonde colour?
 
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Stuntmann said:
If she says I work at that restaurant or a bar, the proper way is to go there, sit and order. If she approaches, you're golden. Asking for her specifically is a no no...
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Unfortunately Ann Summers is a sex store chain in the UK targeting mainly females. So I've got to give it to Elti Boi for braving it and actually stepping in to ask for her.

I guess he'll be able to tell from her reaction whether he should continue or not. Just don't stalk the shop!
 
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