"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ski trip coming up.

My friend who married my ex's best friend is havign a ski trip for his birthday.

They are renting a log cabin - and the plan is to all go there and stay for the weekend.

Now my ex and her finance will be there.

So I have been invited.... and also my group of friends.

It's interesting to note, the my ex has zero friends bar from 2 girls - the married one and one other.

So the social group is mainly made up of people who I introduced the girls to - my friends.

It's just a very difficult situation. It's not like I want to sit around the cabin drinking hot cocoa with my ex's new guy.

How would you play this situation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah I've encountered this problem recently too.

Overlapping friendships putting you in a tough situation.

If you go it will undoubtedly be uncomfortable for you.

Imagine pretending not to notice as your ex's fiance fondles her hot little ass. Or as they laugh, kiss and drape themselves all over each other.

Judging from your previous posts about your ex this is exactly what will be happening. There will be a big show going on just for you.

My ex did it for me and its something I wish I didn't see either.

When I think about my ex with her new guy it doesn't really affect me that much. When I'm stuck in a social situation with both of them its still uncomfortable for some reason. However I have other ex's with bf's who I'm completely comfortable with. In fact I've invited one ex (with her bf) over for dinner once. It was fine.

I guess you have to decide where you are at and if you'll be okay with it all.
 
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no....

New Man,

Hey, do not go........

You will be there 'playing with yourself' and they will be in their room 'squeeking' the bed springs.........

cave dweller
 
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If you don't feel comfortable then just don't go. None of the situations are going to change on the weekend by you going so if it bothers you now it will bother you then.
 
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yeah - good points.

I'm staying.

I could have taken my current chickie with me... and perhaps that is what I will do in the future...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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