This is weird as hell... I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 months, and she keeps worrying that if we ever break up, we won't be friends. I assured her we would. I know she isn't breaking up with me, but what does she mean?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Go from girlfriend to friends?
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This is weird as hell... I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 months, and she keeps worrying that if we ever break up, we won't be friends. I assured her we would. I know she isn't breaking up with me, but what does she mean?"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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ok heres the thing. its with her and there are 2 possibilities
1) She is not secure enough with herself and the thought of losing you scares her. Easily remedied...just reassure her
2) She is interested in someone else, and wants to be with them. However she doesnt want you to be mad with her and likes you enough that she still needs your voice in her life. this is a lil tougher to fix.
1) She is not secure enough with herself and the thought of losing you scares her. Easily remedied...just reassure her
2) She is interested in someone else, and wants to be with them. However she doesnt want you to be mad with her and likes you enough that she still needs your voice in her life. this is a lil tougher to fix.
This is a tool you can use if you want to be a manipulitive *****.
Girls don't want people to be mad at them. This is their bane. I mean girls will do anything to make sure people aren't mad at them.
So basically once a chick thinks you are mad at them, they will do anyhting to appease you. So if she is wanting to see another guy, then you have to be mad, and not some pushover. This will keep her, of course if you don't want to put up with that ****, then tell her you got to break it off.
Of course this is assuming she is attracted to another man. If she isn't, don't pull that ****. But anger to a chick, is like rejection to a guy, it really causes anxiety.
But like I said, this is soem pretty poerful ****, and since she holds your opinion in such esteem, she will be all torn up if you are angry at her. If you don't want to be in the friends zone after you two break up, then don't be. Girls want friends, they don't want to be on bad terms with anyone.
Girls don't want people to be mad at them. This is their bane. I mean girls will do anything to make sure people aren't mad at them.
So basically once a chick thinks you are mad at them, they will do anyhting to appease you. So if she is wanting to see another guy, then you have to be mad, and not some pushover. This will keep her, of course if you don't want to put up with that ****, then tell her you got to break it off.
Of course this is assuming she is attracted to another man. If she isn't, don't pull that ****. But anger to a chick, is like rejection to a guy, it really causes anxiety.
But like I said, this is soem pretty poerful ****, and since she holds your opinion in such esteem, she will be all torn up if you are angry at her. If you don't want to be in the friends zone after you two break up, then don't be. Girls want friends, they don't want to be on bad terms with anyone.
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He makes a very good point and it is very true. However another thing to keep in mind when using this. If you pretend to be mad at her her reaction will follow as such. First she will be upset- crying or very quiet
Next she will be apologetic- this is where you will extract your desired result.
BUT
Finally she will be angry....yeah angry- she will somehow find a way to move the issue to make it look like its your fault! avoid this zone at all costs it can shatter a relationship instantly. this process occurs quickly you may have 2 or so days but almost never higher. so remember
Sorrow, Apologies, Anger
Big cycle dont forget it
Next she will be apologetic- this is where you will extract your desired result.
BUT
Finally she will be angry....yeah angry- she will somehow find a way to move the issue to make it look like its your fault! avoid this zone at all costs it can shatter a relationship instantly. this process occurs quickly you may have 2 or so days but almost never higher. so remember
Sorrow, Apologies, Anger
Big cycle dont forget it
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
B-Lemond
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I personally have never reached the end of the cycle but I did way more than 2 days of apologies. How do you explain that?
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well nobody is the same...for me one girl would talk to me everyday trying to get me to forgive her...you could see my descripted cycle clearly here. But maybe this girl isnt talkitive and it will take her longer to go through each phase...just my guess but this has happened to me multiple times. Of course maybe im the instigator to my cycle...