"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Go for it or not? Help needed!

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Right, I dont care if Im gonna get flamed for this - 'MASTER DJ' with 800+ posts etc etc... but anyway ive been outta the game for a while and been mainly hanging around in the Health & Fitness forum so a direct answer on this would be greatly appreciated. I have some answers of my own in my mind but i wanna see what you guys say first! :) Also i havent posted here in a LONG time.

Heres the scenario: Girl - HB8 - over the past while Ive got to know here through a friend (girl) of mine and i think shes cool etc. We slag each other off, tease eachother, playfully insult eachother and have a genral laugh.

Thing is, shes going away to college in holland in 2 weeks time for 3 years and I dont have much time to decide what i wanna do inthis particular situation.

It is saturday afternoon now and this evening, two friends and me are going out in a town a few miles away as HB8 said i should come out there this weekend with her (after a bit of 'ahh i dont know' 'hmmm' etc - I said yeah sure why not) and 1/2 of her friends (shell meet me up there).

Truthfully, i do like this girl a lot, and we've met up once or twice over the past week for walks etc. We were at a house party last night too (i got a lift all over town as she dropped off the lads and then she dropped me home - even though the starting destination was about 50metres away from my house lol). Shes a friendly girl and will talk to anyone but im the only guy who actually teases/negs her etc and she seems to like it - a neg is always greeted with an insult back in my face and a big smile! Kino is used sometimes also, on both sides. I also sometime give her instructions - last night i was quicly running outta cigs and said to her 'Hey you, drop me down to the shop so i can get ciggies!' and she did lol.

Anyway, we're going out clubbing tonight and i would like to try something on but, as with all of these cases, if she rejects my advances/gets woith another guy it will prob ruin my night (i love sat nights so thatll be really bad lol :)). Im also asking her to 'save me' from my american relations when they come tomorrow (ill ask her to go for a walk/drink on tuesday night to help get me away from them lol).

Whats the best thing to do in my situation, id love to (sounds really bad but...) score her before she goes away but i dont wanna fuk things either. Thanks for listening.

All advice welcome.

Cheers.

PS - yes i am the guy who wrote the tip on how to beat/avoid oneitis but we're not all perfect! :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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anyone guys? im going out this evening and need some advice from yas!
 
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Don't pursue her tonight - just have fun!!

However, ask her out on tuesday and go for the kiss -- you have to pursue her romanticallly --- all your neg hit and C&F may be seen as two friends joking around with each other! Don't over do it!
 

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thanks PuertoRican_Lover

well i did have fun last night. i think she got with some guy but i didnt see it so it didnt affect me at all lol.

asked her to bring me for a drive tuesday and she agreed.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Don't pursue her tonight - just have fun!!

However, ask her out on tuesday and go for the kiss -- you have to pursue her romanticallly --- all your neg hit and C&F may be seen as two friends joking around with each other! Don't over do it!
Correct.

Whenever it comes down to a choice, you've always got to go for it. Don't ever expect her to do all the work.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hey guys,

i know im over analysing the situation but fk it, i havent had any drama in my life for a while! lol.

im starting to think she doesnt have any romantic interest in me altho some of my mates def think theres something between us and are always asking me have i scored her yet.

she also came up to me in the club last night and just said to me 'you're deadly' (over here that means brilliant/way cool) - just straight outta the blue! :p

i dunno, only 2 weeks today before she gone anyway.
 
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Hey clueless, ask her out already!!

Are you going to wait until the day before she leaves town to ask her out? Don't wait until she is on the deck of the boat to scream out to her, "Do you want to go out with me?":rolleyes:

What do you have to lose? She is leaving out of town - give her a going away present by offering your company!

Do it!! Do it now!!!!

If you get rejected then so what, you are still alive!!
 

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Why are you chasing a girl (who you have oneitis for btw) who will be going away in a few weeks? Why don't you try to get over your oneitis instead of amplifying it and being heartbroken when she's gone, wondering whether she's hooked up with a player over there 24/7.

I don't know what to make of her telling you your deadly but I do know that when girls tell you this **** to your face (you're cute, your cool, you're deadly) and you haven't scored with them, it's usually a friendly thing. But when they tell THEIR friends and NOT YOU, "He's so cute, he so cool, he's so deadly" = "he's fu*kable".

I would get other options if I was you. It would be different if you werent so attached to the outcome and if you didn't like her so much.
 

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i need pics to judge if its truely an HB8, preferably a full frontal and/or a reverse anal
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well i decided to not hang with her again as i dont wanna get too close.

thanks for the advice guys.
 
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