"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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go back begging? or screw it?

jayhu12

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I'm in a weird situation. I knew this girl for a few years, and she always knew i liked her, but she had a BF. Anyways we became good friends through the school and such all through college. I'm currently finishing my degree at a local university and she transfered to out of town school to finish hers.

She broke up with her BF one day and so I asked her out when she was back in town for the christmas break, and she said yes. I had to go on a trip with some friends so I said I'd call her when I got back. So I get back and call her, and by my surprise she ignored me and never returned my phone calls. So I'm kinda pissed off and just start doing my own thing thinking I was completely blown off. So the day she when back to her school out of town she msg's me on msn and asked how my new years was and stuff, And I totally go off on her (on msn), about how she could blow me off like that, and she coulda just said no, and How could she treat me like some guy she met at a club etc. After this rant I deleted her phone number, blocked and deleted her msn from mine and swore to never talk to her again for the rest of my life.

The thing is, I find myself having regrets about doing it. I talked to her almost everyday for a few years, and its a weird not having that person to talk to anymore. I try not too but I always check out her myspace page to see whats she doing, thinking about her all the time. I almost even called her to apologize, the only thing that stopped me was my pride and friends words "dont crawl back like a f.ucking dog". I just want to talk to her again, but its probably bad cause I dont think I want to be around when she gets a new BF or couple years down the road shes getting engaged or some ****. What do you guys think? was I right? what I wrong? I said some pretty mean things, and I bought her a really nice christmas presant that I never got a chance to give her which pissed me off even more.

Everything in my head says screw her you know she doesnt give a f.uck about you. but my heart says go back begging its better than nothing. what do you guys think? thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ridingthelightning

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You could unblock her, and if she ever talks to you then just have a conversation. Don't be mad or defensive (notice I didn't say don't act that way, just don't do it period). You said your peace and now you might have some sort of reconciliation. Don't expect to get together with her.
 

Royal-tiger

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You talk sense and did the right thing by not calling her.

In my opinion, you should not have gone ballistic on her if you like her that much. Girls play this "ignoring" game frequently. And you know that. You should have answered her. At least you could have had the open chanel of communication that could have led to something.

But now it is water under the bridge. Go find a different b!tch. No b!tch is more important than your self-respect. If you contact her, the power will be completely with her and if she dissed you, Lord knows how you will feel then.

Peace!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blinkwatt

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Leaves options open to talk to you but do not initiate any type of conversation at all. Lets see how eager she is to talk to you.
 

squirrels

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Screw it.

Didn't even read the thread. Doesn't matter, the answer is the same. Don't beg for a chick. If you screwed up, you're allowed to apologize. But not beg.
 
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