i am a 25 year old american male. i have been in south america for three months. i met a beautiful south american girl. she is my girlfreind, although im back in america now. we left on good terms. the relationship was great and we were together all the time and we having more and more fun everyday. everything was good, except i had some finacial matters that i had to take care of back home. the point is that we talk a lot online and she constantly cries her eyes out and says that she needs me and loves me and cant live wiithout me and all that ****. i really want to go back to south america and see if things can work out. she is not like every gold digging third world girl whose eyes light up just on the thought of entering america and suddenly her problems are gone. this chick is smart and cool and doesnt even want to come to america. i want to leave america as well. the point is that the earliest possible time i can go back is nov/dec. should i even keep talking to this chick or stop wasting my time? we have an open relationship but i am just wondering if its worth my time and effort to keep this going. she could be getting railed by other dudes, but i dont care. im kinda over it, but at the same time, this chick is the coolest girl i have ever been with and i really want to be with her again. but this long distance **** is stupid! what should i tell this girl?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just a few thought,
1. You hardly know her yet she isnt a gold digging south american?
2. You want to live there, what will you do for a living there, can you get a visa is this possiable?
3. Has she asked you for money?
Alot of South American woman are great, and make wonderful wives, but one has to be careful their intentions and motives. Lets say she comes here, can you be the baller you were in her country. A Steak and Lobster dinner in brazil might cost you 40$ american but 120 in the states
1. You hardly know her yet she isnt a gold digging south american?
2. You want to live there, what will you do for a living there, can you get a visa is this possiable?
3. Has she asked you for money?
Alot of South American woman are great, and make wonderful wives, but one has to be careful their intentions and motives. Lets say she comes here, can you be the baller you were in her country. A Steak and Lobster dinner in brazil might cost you 40$ american but 120 in the states
hell no i dont give her money. and yes, its kind of sad that she cant live without me, but i think that might be a bull**** front that all girls put up. but she aint like other gold digging south americans, why? cause i have seen and been with a couple and she is defintely different. is it worth going back? at all?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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It sounds like you do not wish to continue this relationship to where it should go, and so you should let her go so that she might find a decent man. The other alternative is to marry her and sponsor her for immigration; I would not do that until a child would have been born.
Perhaps you would like to spend more time there, but you need time in the USA to earn $. Of course, the reason that there aren't many men like you chasing these foreign hotties is because they need to work to make cash like you.
I know where you are coming from. I like eastern European women. :woo:
Perhaps you would like to spend more time there, but you need time in the USA to earn $. Of course, the reason that there aren't many men like you chasing these foreign hotties is because they need to work to make cash like you.
I know where you are coming from. I like eastern European women. :woo:
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Whats wrong with that?joekerr31 said: