i am a 25 year old american male. i have been in south america for three months. i met a beautiful south american girl. she is my girlfreind, although im back in america now. we left on good terms. the relationship was great and we were together all the time and we having more and more fun everyday. everything was good, except i had some finacial matters that i had to take care of back home. the point is that we talk a lot online and she constantly cries her eyes out and says that she needs me and loves me and cant live wiithout me and all that ****. i really want to go back to south america and see if things can work out. she is not like every gold digging third world girl whose eyes light up just on the thought of entering america and suddenly her problems are gone. this chick is smart and cool and doesnt even want to come to america. i want to leave america as well. the point is that the earliest possible time i can go back is nov/dec. should i even keep talking to this chick or stop wasting my time? we have an open relationship but i am just wondering if its worth my time and effort to keep this going. she could be getting railed by other dudes, but i dont care. im kinda over it, but at the same time, this chick is the coolest girl i have ever been with and i really want to be with her again. but this long distance **** is stupid! what should i tell this girl?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just a few thought,
1. You hardly know her yet she isnt a gold digging south american?
2. You want to live there, what will you do for a living there, can you get a visa is this possiable?
3. Has she asked you for money?
Alot of South American woman are great, and make wonderful wives, but one has to be careful their intentions and motives. Lets say she comes here, can you be the baller you were in her country. A Steak and Lobster dinner in brazil might cost you 40$ american but 120 in the states
1. You hardly know her yet she isnt a gold digging south american?
2. You want to live there, what will you do for a living there, can you get a visa is this possiable?
3. Has she asked you for money?
Alot of South American woman are great, and make wonderful wives, but one has to be careful their intentions and motives. Lets say she comes here, can you be the baller you were in her country. A Steak and Lobster dinner in brazil might cost you 40$ american but 120 in the states
hell no i dont give her money. and yes, its kind of sad that she cant live without me, but i think that might be a bull**** front that all girls put up. but she aint like other gold digging south americans, why? cause i have seen and been with a couple and she is defintely different. is it worth going back? at all?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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It sounds like you do not wish to continue this relationship to where it should go, and so you should let her go so that she might find a decent man. The other alternative is to marry her and sponsor her for immigration; I would not do that until a child would have been born.
Perhaps you would like to spend more time there, but you need time in the USA to earn $. Of course, the reason that there aren't many men like you chasing these foreign hotties is because they need to work to make cash like you.
I know where you are coming from. I like eastern European women. :woo:
Perhaps you would like to spend more time there, but you need time in the USA to earn $. Of course, the reason that there aren't many men like you chasing these foreign hotties is because they need to work to make cash like you.
I know where you are coming from. I like eastern European women. :woo:
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Whats wrong with that?joekerr31 said: