guys I am throwing in the towel. This PUA business isn't working for me. I'm not saying the techniques do not work, but I am no longer going to focus so much on women. My goals of going to law school don't really match with my goal of being a PUA and ultimately, I feel that law school is the better thing for me. Therefore I'm going to live my life of improvement and development of myself as a better character, because now I know c&f and negs can only take you so far. and in the end you are still an empty shell. I guess it's not really giving up, but more of a shift in my focus from women to myself. the transition to college really woke me up in terms of not reaching my goals. i didn't do as well as i could and for that i regret it. it's a horrible feeling that i don't want to repeat
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
giving up :(
- Thread starter Potbelly
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you give up now, you will never achieve what you wanted to. If you keep going you will eventually succeed. No one who has kept trying has ever failed. Everyone who stops trying fails. I spent a year of utter failure and dissapointment, then I succeeded. My life honestly is so much happier now. And I am NOT an empty shell, but so opposite of that. It's up to you though dude. It's your excuse.
VegasGuy56
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I was an empty shell before I discovered this site. The confidence and knowledge I've gained from learning about PU helped me become more successful, more liked, and in general happier about my life.
damn you guys are right. I've been thrown around so much recenttly by all these rejections,some very cold and longwinded, but these are tests i must overcome. i guess i felt down and weak for a minute there. thanks a lot DJs. see you at the top 
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
because obviously if you have not completly turned your life around in a whole 2 months then you have failed!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
Your just scared you don't want your ego to get hurt, your so scared of rejection because you don't want your ego to be hurt. You don't have to stop doing law school but think about this.
Your a successful lawyer and all have all the money that you can think of, have a big house, car, etc. An your thinking life is good, but one think that you have missed out on because you neglected it is pusvy. You spent all your time doing law school that you rarely went clubbing and the times you did you were scared to approach and probably hoping girls will love you because your a successful guy. In the end its hard for you to really pull the girls that you really want and you end up having to settle with what you can get.
Now you have the other path which you try to manage law and sargin but you may have your conflicting times once in awhile. (either some hardcore sex from a hb9 or study all day to try and get a 100 on your test) Now your a lawyer who is successful still maybe not as good as if you were to never learn pua but still decent. Have his love life in control and able to pull the girls he want.
Your a successful lawyer and all have all the money that you can think of, have a big house, car, etc. An your thinking life is good, but one think that you have missed out on because you neglected it is pusvy. You spent all your time doing law school that you rarely went clubbing and the times you did you were scared to approach and probably hoping girls will love you because your a successful guy. In the end its hard for you to really pull the girls that you really want and you end up having to settle with what you can get.
Now you have the other path which you try to manage law and sargin but you may have your conflicting times once in awhile. (either some hardcore sex from a hb9 or study all day to try and get a 100 on your test) Now your a lawyer who is successful still maybe not as good as if you were to never learn pua but still decent. Have his love life in control and able to pull the girls he want.
Distant that is true. I think I was just being a big pvssy about it all and not wanting to get hurt again and again, but hey no pain no gain.
I read this other thread and some guy said it's all about balance and moderation. It's not good or realistic to think life is divided into 2 distinct parts. I can't do 100% study and then 100% party. It doesn't work that way. I need to find a healthy balance with women that allows me to have a social life, yet also does not interfere with my school work. it can be done
I read this other thread and some guy said it's all about balance and moderation. It's not good or realistic to think life is divided into 2 distinct parts. I can't do 100% study and then 100% party. It doesn't work that way. I need to find a healthy balance with women that allows me to have a social life, yet also does not interfere with my school work. it can be done
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Yea you were. If you think you can get into law school let alone complete it when you cant even improve yourself then youre a joke. Sure maybe you can do well in school while compermising your life and being misrable. The choice is yours. Youll either start the change today or 10 years from now. You decide. Get a personality aside for school. Get some hobbies. When youre busy you should have an easier time to balance everything.Potbelly said:
Go to law school, focus on that
contrary to what alot of guys here have said, im saying take the law school route a bit more seriously. Think about it. Right now you are 18, just an AFC no matter how much game you think you have. You're like me. But think about it like this. When you get out of law school, you'll be a high priced lawyer. You'll have a big house, nice clothes, nice car. Think about your social status then. You'll attract girls without having to do more then show up. They will take notice. Take the time to do this for yourself first, then afterwords you have the rest of your life to learn this art we call game. Do for yourself first bro, before you do anything for the *****.
Dont get me wrong, have soem fun while at school, but concentrait on grades first. Don't end up like Papa (PUA in styles "The Game"). Take the school first and formost, then take the girls.
-Scoop
Distant Light said:
contrary to what alot of guys here have said, im saying take the law school route a bit more seriously. Think about it. Right now you are 18, just an AFC no matter how much game you think you have. You're like me. But think about it like this. When you get out of law school, you'll be a high priced lawyer. You'll have a big house, nice clothes, nice car. Think about your social status then. You'll attract girls without having to do more then show up. They will take notice. Take the time to do this for yourself first, then afterwords you have the rest of your life to learn this art we call game. Do for yourself first bro, before you do anything for the *****.
Dont get me wrong, have soem fun while at school, but concentrait on grades first. Don't end up like Papa (PUA in styles "The Game"). Take the school first and formost, then take the girls.
-Scoop
SCOOP YOU ARE THE MAN. YOU'RE RIGHT. School first. extra time will be spent working out. then extra time will be spent doing internships. then extra time will be used for women.
you're right. that's the truth man. I got little to no game and if I half ass the game parrt of my life, then half ass the law part of my life, I will end up with SH1T on both ends. Better to have one first and then the other instead of neither.
you're right. that's the truth man. I got little to no game and if I half ass the game parrt of my life, then half ass the law part of my life, I will end up with SH1T on both ends. Better to have one first and then the other instead of neither.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
dude you have the impression that i'm a loser...oakraiderz2 said:
...you're wrong. I have a life man. I work out regularly, I go out with friends, my life is awesome, just no girl at the moment, which isn't even a problem.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Then what are you complaining about? You have friends...so you hook up with girls. Being a PUA and having a girl are TWO different things. Maybe you dont have time for a gf...understandable if youre too busy. Im sure others got the same impression by their responses. Anyway...since i was wrong, do whatever.Potbelly said:
shydude
Master Don Juan
Work now, have fun later. Women should never be a barrier between them and yourl life. Focus on what you wanna be and go with it, Once you achieve your goals, you will be free for the rest of your life, knowing that you have a a life. A lot of ppl screw up on their years in high school, but they regret it later once they have to choose their carrers. good luck